Intuition and How it Has Completely Changed the Way I Make Decisions

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Intuition is a new buzzword that people are using to talk about self-improvement and personal growth. I’ve heard it in several podcasts, Youtube videos, and personal growth blogs. But what is intuition really? How do we use it to influence our every day?  I literally used to ask myself those very questions when I would hear the word. I never got a clear answer until I started my own personal growth journey last year.

I used to really struggle with decision-making. Whenever it was time to make a major decision, I would make pros and cons lists, google related advice, avoid coming to a decision, and just be extremely stressed, overwhelmed, and confused. Decision-making never had to be that hard! It was when I started making major decisions about my career that I learned how to use intuition to help me make the right decisions.

Intuition is the art of knowing. It’s knowing what is best for yourself based on a feeling. When I made the decision to quit my teaching job to work on my masters degree and explore my passions (travel, entrepreneurship), I made a list of pros and cons. I googled “qutting teaching” and “should I quit my job” and read forums filled with opinions every day. I knew that I loved teaching but I also knew that I would never be sure if it was the right path for me unless I ventured into something else.

I asked people for their advice constantly on whether I should be a flight attendant, looking for my perfect answer from someone else. What I found was that I was looking for certain answers to the questions that I was asking. I wanted people to tell me to go for it, to quit my job and go to flight attendant training. That was what I really wanted to do and I was waiting for someone else to validate a decision I had already made within my self.

Intuition is all about your true desires and what is right for you. As I searched for answers from outside sources, I realized that the answer was within me and really I was just searching for validation from other places. I know it sounds cliche but we know our heart’s desires and our visions for ourselves.

It is logical to make decisions based on your goals for yourself. It is intuitive to make decisions based on how you feel about certain situations in a moment or series of moments. Intuition is about following that voice, that inner voice that speaks when you think long and hard about the decision that faces you.

Here are some concrete ways I started using my intuition to guide my decision making:

  • I decided not to do things that made me feel weary, uneasy, or gave me overall negative vibes. Plain and simple.
  • When asking for advice, I would pay close attention to the answers that it seemed I was looking for. You have to admit that when you ask for advice, usually you know what you want to hear. That is your deepest desire, that thing you want to hear, that thing you want to be encouraged to do.

Becoming more in tune with my intuition has been a game changer for me, like seriously. I find myself less dissatisfied with the decisions I am making because I am listening to and following my instincts on situations that are right for me and those that might not be such a good fit.

What decisions are you faced with at the moment? How can you improve your ability to use your intuition in your decision-making process? What can you do to channel your intuition more everyday?

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Thanks for reading!

Lacey Alanna

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My 2018 Manifesto, Goals, and Why I Don’t Believe in New Year Resolutions

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Happy New Year!

I’m so excited about the new year,  not because anything will automatically be different because of the change of date. I’m excited because it is a great time to reflect and to begin concentrated effort on new goals for myself and my life. Before the end of 2017, I had been one of those humans that just lives, exists in the world. I was sort of living life as it comes, being more reactive than proactive about my life.

Today, I wanted to discuss the shifts in mindset that took place for me toward the middle to end of 2017 and how those shifts have contributed to my goals for 2018. In addition, I want to talk about why I believe that New Year Resolutions are a complete load of crap and how I set myself up for success in other ways.

During the last week of 2017, I carved out time to reflect on the past year. I realized how far I’ve come in my personal growth journey because as I reflected, I realized that I didn’t have any clear cut goals for last year . You’re probably like what?! Don’t be like I was…create goals! Here’s what I did differently in preparation for 2018 to give me a more clear, centered approach to measuring my success toward my lifelong goals at the end of the year:

  1. I created 5 goals for myself that I’d like to accomplish by the end of 2018. I chose to only create 5 big goals for the year because I wanted to be able to really focus my efforts this year. I think any more than 5 goals a year can get overwhelming, difficult to remember, and can cause a lack of focus in daily efforts. I picked 5 goals, just 5 that will ultimately lead me to the accomplishment of my life goals. If you haven’t created a list of life goals, subscribe and consider doing that first using my FREE 1 Year Goal Setting Worksheet you will receive.
  2. I chose a theme for the year. My theme for this year is “Be consistent, stay focused”. All 5 of my goals for the year are centered around this theme.  I wanted my goals to be cohesive and to build character. I have found that in the past I have lacked consistency and focus which has prevented me from building healthy and strong habits in many areas of my life. My mind goes back to the quote, “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence is then not an act, but a habit”. The most successful people have strong habits that promote excellence across their lives. My theme is that extra push I need to build my character in a different way than I have in the past.
  3. I created a visual manifesto. I created a diagram pictured below that displays my hopes and dreams for the year. It illustrates the visions I have for myself in different areas of my life such as my finances, body, mind, and business. I have included a picture below of my manifesto with my personal goals listed to the right (covered with sticky notes), not fancy AT ALL. I am a visual person and this was a very important part of really gaining a cohesive and pertinent vision for myself. I hung this in my work area so that I can see it and internalize it daily. Knowing your goals and vision for yourself is an integral part of your personal growth and your ability to accomplish those goals and realize that vision.

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Why I Don’t Believe in New Year Resolutions

I don’t believe in resolutions because they really aren’t effective. Let’s face it, no one sticks to their resolutions. However, goals are tangible and I think people should think about their motivation or their why for particular goals. That is what keeps you going when it gets difficult and you want to give up. Your whys are what make you fight harder to reach the goals you’ve set for yourself. Take a look at your whys when you get discouraged. Take a look at your visual manifesto when you lack focus. There is so much power in those tools. Creating a resolution each year with no implementation strategy is not living intentionally or proactively. Make your own rules about how you want to set and accomplish your goals but be strategic in the course of your journey.

What goals have you set for 2018 and beyond? What life goals have you set? What or who are your whys? What tools will you take from this post and implement for a successful year and life?

 

Thanks for reading!

Lacey Alanna

 

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Why I Quit My Job AGAIN After Only a Month, Intuition, and What’s Next

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   I really grappled with the decision to continue to update readers of the blog on my career decisions and changes. I struggled with deciding whether I should bare it all or keep things impersonal and solely help YOU to make YOUR own rules for your life. I went through phases of feeling like a quitter or a failure because things turned out differently than I thought they would. I went through feelings of being afraid that people would look at me a certain way or project negativity on to me because of my career decisions.  I also got over it fairly quickly.

     I decided to share my personal growth journey with readers simply because doing so aligns with my mission for this blog and this brand (read the “About” page for more on the specifics). I’m here to truly touch people’s lives in a real and helpful way.  I never want to stop sharing my stories and personal experiences if they can move others in the same way that they have moved me. Read on to find out why I quit my job as a flight attendant after only a month and what my overarching themes will be for the next year and beyond.

     As I prepared for Flight Attendant Training, I thought that this new career was going to be a welcome change. It would give me a mental break from teaching (my previous career), give me time to work on my Masters Degree, and give me the opportunity to explore my passions, I thought. I was so excited and so prepared. I didn’t care about the pay cut, the nights away from home, the rigorous training. I just wanted to travel the world for  F R E E  and live life adventurously while getting paid to do it!

I completed training, relocated to my new base (Minneapolis, MN), and began working. I liked being a flight attendant. It was easy, fun, and I got to travel for free on my limited off days.

So why did I quit?

The problem was me. The job was not a good spiritual fit for me as I felt a decreased sense of purpose in my work. In addition to the extreme financial struggles, health issues caused by flying, a crazy loaded work schedule, decreased time for family and my relationship, and adoption of a nomadic lifestyle, the job simply did not align with the life goals that I had recently rewritten for myself.  Many of the goals I set for myself for 3 years, 5 years, and life would be extremely difficult to accomplish working as a flight attendant. Therefore,  I made the decision that I would quit my job as a flight attendant and seek joy in other passions that were more aligned with my goals.

What’s next for me?

  • More Blogging!
  • Coaching
  • Entreprenuership
  • Masters Degree!
  • More Service to others
  • Intention in EVERYTHING I choose to do

Before I end this post, I want to take a few moments to discuss the importance of knowing and following your intuition. Intuition can be a difficult concept to understand because it is so elusive and is not black and white. I knew I needed to move on after only a month because I felt disconnected and misaligned with my purpose in my role as a flight attendant. It was a feeling of knowing that I had. No one can tell you what decisions to make, what to do with your career, when to quit your job, or whether a path is right for you. It is simply a combination of trial and error mixed with a lot of following your gut. Follow your intuition no matter what and I guarantee you’ll always be glad you did.

Thanks for reading!

Lacey Alanna

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What To Do When You Land Your Dream Job and It Sucks

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You prepared for the interview for days, maybe weeks for the job of your dreams. You bought an amazing interview outfit and you even visualized yourself in that office, or work space over and over. You watched you tube videos or maybe did an online search to learn as much as you could about this gig. You may have asked other people in the position about its perks, sought advice, and obsessed over the prospect of this new position, new pay, new start.  So you land the job and then you realize…you aren’t nearly as happy as you thought you’d be. Your anxious excitement has turned into stress and dread.

Look in the mirror

Sometimes people find themselves looking for something,  but then never really find it. People often want a new job, new clothes, new pay, new friends, a new town and think that if they get those things, everything would be a million times better for them. Sometimes things really do get better, but sometimes they don’t. Ask yourself, are you afraid of failure? Are you overthinking it? Are you in your own head with negativity? If you are, stop. Be more positive about the job and reflect on why you wanted it in the first place.

Re-invest in yourself

If you really dislike the job, spend some time investing in yourself. Re-visit your goals, wants, needs, and life’s purpose. Then make sure that your current position aligns with your overall vision for yourself and your life.  Figure out what you can do to work toward those things daily from your current position. If there is a misalignment then you may be in the wrong career. If you aren’t goal-setting and reflecting daily or even weekly then you may have trouble finding the alignment between your career and life goals. In that case, read my post on daily reflections and goal-setting linked below!

https://laceyalanna.com/2017/12/02/how-goal-setting-daily-reflections-will-change-your-life/

Remember that you are NOT a failure 

If the job doesn’t work out for you, that doesn’t make you a failure. YOU define your own success no matter what. Whether you leave the job or decide to make the best of it and stay positive is up to you and how you choose to feel about that decision is up to YOU. As long as you are happy on your journey, you have succeeded in some sense. Don’t let anyone else’s opinion affect how you define success in your life. To read more about how to make your own rules in spite of other’s opinions, read my post from last week:

https://laceyalanna.com/2017/12/11/i-dont-care-what-people-think-making-your-own-rules-about-peoples-opinions/

Thanks for reading!

Lacey Alanna

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“I Don’t Care What People Think”: Making Your Own Rules About People’s Opinions

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People always make it known that they don’t care about the opinions of others. It’s like rule number 1 in the whole self-acceptance, self-love stratosphere. Everyone’s favorite stance is the whole “I don’t care what other people think” stance which is one I completely agree with having. However, I didn’t always think that way and I’m mindful that there are so many people who are still navigating through what it means to make their own rules as far as people’s opinions go. It isn’t about not caring what people think. Making your own rules and leading a peaceful life is about ceasing to internalize the opinions of others to the point of losing yourself.

If we are being honest, that is a place that I am not too far removed from. It is only in the last 4 to 6 months that I have really stopped internalizing people’s opinions about my decisions and my life in general. That means I lived almost 25 whole years living my life to some extent based on what other people had to say in place of how I felt. These are some of the ways that I stopped making decisions and basing my existence on how others felt and started making my own rules about how I could effectively use feedback in my life.

     Have confidence in your decisions and in the way you live your life… I mean you are making your own rules, right? If you are making decisions in an effective way that produces the best outcomes for YOU, then you have no reason to lack confidence in those decisions. The only way that people’s negative opinions about your decisions and your life affect you is if you aren’t confident in your decisions and your life to start with. There have been so many times when people had negative things to say about the way I live my life (i.e. “why did she quit teaching? why would she want to be a flight attendant? why are you doing it this way? That’s crazy!”). There were also many times in the beginning that I didn’t feel confident that the decisions I was making were the best ones. Those were the times that the negativity affected me most. Don’t let that happen to you. When you are confident, no comments or opinions can ruin what you have going on.

Don’t reveal every move to every person… There are so many people who are super important to me. I value those individuals, I seek their advice (not their approval), and I care to hear opinions, of course. However, everyone in your life is not one of those individuals. I say that to emphasize the importance of letting decisions and your life in general play out. Social media is such a HUGE part of how we interact with other people and how some people seek approval, but we have to remember that everyone doesn’t need to know every detail of our lives. There are certain things that I choose to keep private and I RARELY make announcements about my life on social media. That has been in major part, due to the fact that it can be so hard to find approval within yourself, let alone approval from others. Don’t tell everyone every move because everyone does not deserve a place at the table where your life’s rules are written. You decide who gets a place and who doesn’t, bottom line.

Decide who your people are and why. I mean really, decide who gets a seat at that table we talked about and why you are granting them that position. Also, be sure that you are giving those valuable voices a place to give you advice, to help talk you through the difficult things, but not a place to grant or deny their approval for your decisions. My mom’s opinion is always important to me because she’s so smart and she is often affected by my decisions. However, her opinion is not often a deciding factor on anything for me. I love my people and I have my reasons for the trust that I have in their voices, but my voice is always the loudest. The reason for that is that at the end of the day, when you are in the solitude of your mind, you have to face yourself. You have to live with the rules that you have written for yourself, the plans that you’ve made, the life you have built. So decide.

Are you seeking advice or approval? How do you incorporate feedback without internalizing opinions? To whom are you revealing your moves and why? Who are your people and why? What will you do today to make your own rules about people’s opinions?

Thanks for reading!

Lacey Alanna

 

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How Goal-Setting & Daily Reflections Will Change Your Life.

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For the last two months, I have been really reflective about my life’s purpose and what I would like to accomplish. Sometimes when you feel unbalanced and lack focus, you have to re-center yourself and take a good look at the bigger picture. I stumbled across some information on how the most successful people set tangible goals and accomplish them. Bottom line.

Through some deep reflection, I realized that for most of my life, I have been accomplishing goals that I didn’t really know I had. This has caused me to sometimes lack focus and even motivation to live my life in a way that fulfills my purpose and works daily toward my goals. I have been effective, always producing a desired or intended result. However, I have not been efficient, achieving maximum productivity with minimum wasted effort or expense.

So recently, I decided that I wanted to not only write down and meditate on my goals for 2018, but I also wanted to reflect on them daily based on reflection prompts. I wanted to figure out a way to live each day intentionally to work toward those goals and my life’s purpose.  Here is what I did and what you can do TODAY to become clearer and more focused on your goals in preparation for the New Year.

FIRST: Set Goals for your life and WRITE THEM DOWN. It is important to set tangible and specific goals for your life. It is equally as important to write them down or type them into a document where they can be viewed regularly. I did this by starting a journal (I LOVE journals/writing in notebooks). The journal is for daily writing and reflections. The very first page features my life goals, all the goals. The second page features my 5 year goals. These goals align with life goals and should be like small milestones toward my bigger goals. *My worksheet that I have posted in my workspace features my goals for the current year. Knowing specifically what these goals are is key to creating goals for your year. Start big and make your goals more focused as the timeline decreases. Having big goals that are accessible to you helps you to refocus yourself when you forget why your smaller goals and day to day actions are so important.

*I wrote my 1 year goals on my 1 Year Goal Setting Worksheet which you can receive FREE when you subscribe to the blog. The worksheet gives you space to write down your important theme for the year, your goals, and the reason why those goals are so important to you as a daily reminder. I posted the worksheet somewhere it is visible daily.

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 SECOND: Reflect Daily! I have committed myself to waking up earlier every morning to start each day by reflecting on my goals. Daily, I take a look at my life goals, 5 year goals, and 2018 goals. Before I start my day, I ask myself: What can I do TODAY to achieve the goals I’ve set or to make progress toward my goals?  At the end of my day, I ask myself: What have I done today to make progress toward the goals I’ve set for myself? Reflection is soooo important because it focuses your day so that you are intentional in everything that you do or at least more of the things that you do on a daily basis. This is so helpful for me because there are so many days I feel like sitting on the couch binge-watching a new show on Netflix or scrolling Instagram/watching YouTube videos for hours. By reflecting daily, I have become more motivated to do at least one to two activities in my free time that push me closer toward accomplishing the goals that I really want to accomplish.  I have become more hardworking, persistent, and intentional through my daily reflections. I still enjoy my free time, but I try to split my time to force myself to use some of it more intentionally.

The significance of documenting reflections…

Using my journal that I previously mentioned, I write down any thoughts and reflections I have around goals, spirituality, or my purpose and contributions in a given day. Each page is dated and includes any spiritual reflections I had after readings I have done. This is important because there is value in seeing your growth. There is also a great deal of value in realizing that your day was either super productive or it wasn’t the most effective use of the time you have to accomplish your goals (whether that is a year, five years or a lifetime). Without reflection and small adjustments to the work you do everyday, your goals are just dreams. You turn dreams into tangible goals by doing the work. 

Sidenote: An important component of goal setting that I haven’t discussed is being purpose driven. Before writing even one goal, I have done a lot of reflecting on my purpose. Before you set goals, think about what you are passionate about and how you can impact those around you. I’ve done a great deal of reflection on my life’s purpose in order to set goals that help to fulfill that purpose.

Ask yourself: What do I want to be remembered for when I’m no longer around? What goals do I need to accomplish for that to be possible? What small goals are important to accomplish today that will lead me to accomplish bigger goals tomorrow? What habits or mindsets can I adjust to be more efficient daily?

Start reflecting on your purpose TODAY. Start writing down your goals TODAY. Start doing the work TODAY.

 

Thank You,

Lacey Alanna

 

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