Diary of a 20 something, Personal Growth Journey

For the past few weeks, I have been swamped at work. I have been surviving on crackers, breakfast bars, and 5 hours of sleep. I have been eating takeout and drowning in mostly job dissatisfaction and a little bit of “I hate that I don’t have enough time to…”. Trying to “adult” is truly so hard and there is really no other way to say that. It’s that weird time in my life when I have to learn how to perform a balancing act. However, I’m  continually dropping the balls of life and trying to re-focus my efforts. During these times, what helps me the most is taking a day, an afternoon, even an evening to get my sh*t together. Sound familiar? Read on for details on my GYST routine.

The following list of things is just a bunch of stuff I do when my life is something like organized chaos and I am barely getting everything done. This is simply a list of things you can do for a soft reset on a tough week or month or to just re-focus yourself and organize your life if you are feeling unbalanced.

  1. Declutter

When I’m feeling super out of whack, I literally go through my clothing, shoes, accessories, household items, old mail, and get rid of any unwanted items. I make space, organize items, and just remove anything that is outdated, no longer needed, and generally no longer brining me satisfaction. Later on, I can replace the items with new ones or make the decision to just do without them. For example, I declutter my closet and every so often I find at least 6-7 clothing items I either sell or donate. The lack of clutter can also bring much needed mental clarity by clearing up physical space.

2. Clean

I mean I guess this one seems obvious, right? When I feel like I need to reset my life, I always clean and organize. I take the time to deep clean things like laundering every dirty or frequently used item in the house, including not only clothing but rugs, kitchen linens, and throw pillows.  I wipe down or dust hard surfaces and rearrange items in the house for a more polished or organized look. I am always sure to put laundry away neatly and sometimes I organize that messy towel cabinet or dish cabinet that needs attention. Try to clean or organize something that you have been wanting to clean for a while. It generally gives you a sense of accomplishment to check it off your mental to-do list.

3. Light candles & journal

Seems like a bit of an odd combination, but this can be really relaxing to do as I sit in a clean, well organized room in my house. Burning essential oils or lighting candles gives your place a relaxed vibe and journaling is an important part of self care. When I am performing my GYST routine, I usually take time to write down things I am grateful for and some things I want to manifest into my life in the next week or maybe month. I have so many different kinds of journals that I use to really invest time in myself when life gets hectic.

4. Meal Prep for the next couple days or just cook something

Honestly, cooking doesn’t happen as often as it should sometimes in my house because at the end of a long day sometimes cooking is the last thing on my mind. Part of my GYST routine is to cook a large meal that I can possibly continue to eat for the following couple of days. It makes me feel so organized because its one less thing I have to do. I can use my time the next day working on some other thing on my to do list. Once it has been done, cooking makes me feel like I have plenty of time to get things done. the illusion of time in tun makes me feel like I have it together. Also, being able to grab a pre-made healthy lunch and just go to work is probably one of the best feelings known to man or woman.

5. Plan

Put together a to-do list, update your calendar and planner, and just organize your agenda. This is so important because it really puts you on the right track to staying organized for a while. Making sure that your agenda is solid and you have reset your method of organization of dates and plans really makes things a little bit easier, especially when you stay consistent. Make a to-do list of all the small things that have been getting overlooked like making that doctor’s appointment, going to the dmv, getting an oil change, etc. This step will motivate you to get those little things done and feel more organized in the process.

There are so many other things you can incorporate into your GYST routine. Please comment below with things that you do when you need to get it together and get organized after rough week or month.

Sincerely,

Lacey Alanna

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The blog is back.

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I made it through my first year teaching 4th grade. I flew to Asia. I cruised to Mexico. I’ve started another year. I am grateful.

I’m ready to blog again!

I was blogging a few months ago way more regularly and I enjoyed it but I was truthfully in a period where I felt more lost than ever. I stopped feeling gratitude. I stopped feeling positivity. I started feeling self pity and emptiness. So I took time away from blogging to find my passions and to create more time for them. I took time to figure out where I had lost myself.

I talked to so many people in their 20s about that lost feeling and so many could relate to what I felt.

Anyways, I’m totally still a work in progress. I mean aren’t we all?

Im back with a more conversational post just to reintroduce myself; clearer, more grounded, ready to take on the world (quite literally).

While I was away, I went to Asia for 3 weeks (Singapore, Cambodia, Thailand). Travel has always been therapeutic and healing for me. On this trip, I tried so many things I had never done and pushed myself in so many new and different ways. I conquered my fear of heights, I participated in a three and a half hour deep meditation, I reunited with an old friend (hey Kate!).

This post is a hello, an “I’m back”. This post is hope and a “you’re not alone” for those who are feeling extra lost and needing to wander to find themselves.

This feeling isn’t forever.

Sincerely,

Lacey Alanna

Diary of a 20 Something: Chit Chat about Vlogging, Relocating, and Re-Branding

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I haven’t blogged in so long and that is partly because I’ve been thinking about the re-branding of the blog. I want to be real with people and show readers that so many 20-somethings go through some of the same things and that none of us is alone. Teaching people how to become a slightly better version of themselves is so helpful and necessary, but there also needs to be a space where young women’s concerns, stresses, and just life experiences can be shared and acknowledged. There needs to be a space where young women, especially of color can be like “hey, other people go through this” and “wow, I’m not just living in the twilight zone”, considering the weird things that happen in your 20’s and maybe even 30’s (I’m not there yet so I wouldn’t know).

I still haven’t figured out what that looks like for the blog,  although I do feel like vlogging fits into that space. So, that is something I am exploring at the moment.  However, this week I needed to just write SOMETHING because as content creators, we don’t always have to wait for the perfect post or the perfect time to create and release new content. I also haven’t written anything in a while because I have been fully immersed in teaching 4th grade which has been an interesting and welcome change for me.

Anyways, vlogging is something I’m very interested in. Many people who read and love the blog have asked me to create a YouTube channel because some people just don’t enjoy reading. I totally get it.  However, I am a perfectionist and don’t want to start making videos that aren’t quality as far as aesthetics, content, and just garnering people’s interest. It is the fear of failure sometimes that stops me from going full steam ahead with something. However, I’m taking my time to make an informed decision about whether vlogging is something I want to do and something I have time for realistically.

Where I’m at right now…

Next, I wanted to talk about relocating. I have relocated numerous times, depending on what you consider relocating. I went to college in Pennsylvania, close to Buffalo, NY. Then I moved to Washington, DC after I graduated to experience big city life and be closer to my hometown, Baltimore. I loved DC but it was a bit pretentious and expensive for my taste. However, I find myself missing DC now along with my dc friends and considering it a second home. After 2 years in DC, I decided to move south to Houston, TX for the warmer weather and the lower cost of living. I LOVED Houston and started to meet people and establish a life. Then, I fell in love with a guy who I am currently with (shout out to him and to love and all that stuff) and found myself in San Marcos, TX between Austin and San Antonio.

I must say I have managed to form a love affair with every place I have lived EXCEPT this one. I’m not sure what it is about the Austin area that just doesn’t do it for me. Maybe it is the fact that I haven’t made any friends here or I don’t get out much or that I live in a small college town and the big city is 30 miles away. Not sure, but I know that I am ready to move to a location that is ideal for buying a home and living long term. I have lived many places because I have chosen for my life to be that way, being a single 20 something. Now, I am growing and longing for stability and I think one more relocation is in my near future. Not sure where that will be, but closer to family on the east coast or in the southeast would be ideal. Any suggestions? I totally also want to write a post about my relocations and my experiences living in each of these areas. I believe that the place you live can have a major effect on your overall happiness and your life and plan to discuss that more in detail in a later post. Relocations are something that most 20 somethings either go through with or think about at some point.

My next post will be more structured perhaps, or maybe not but the Diary of a 20 Something will be a series of posts you can find under categories where I will chit chat about life, struggles, thoughts, ideas, plans, and the things that we face every day as we are in the words of SZA, stuck in those 20 somethings.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

5 Ways to Navigate Feeling Lost in Your 20’s

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All week, I have been planning on writing a travel post about relocation and why I have relocated twice since I graduated from college. That post will definitely come later if people are interested. But, my intuition told me to write this post because of where I am currently. I thought that a post about this weird millenial, quarter-life crisis thing that most people experience in their 20s (and really at any time) would speak to so many people.

Sometimes I tend to get overwhelmed and have a lost feeling when it comes to my career and my life’s work. I literally feel unfulfilled and like there are a million things I should be doing, a million places I could be. But, part of me has no idea what those things are and what those places could be. These are things that I do to help me to navigate those times when I feel like I have no freaking clue about anything! Sometimes, I get overwhelmed by the amount of possibility that life offers compared with the potential I feel that I have. Then I end up feeling defeated and overwhelmed. It happens but this is how I find my way when it seems impossible…

 

  1. Revisit Life Goals: When you feel lost, it is super helpful to revisit your life goals. What have you done lately to push yourself to reach those goals? What things are you doing today to help you reach those goals? What will you do this week to help you reach those goals? This motivates me in every way to get up and go do something that really contributes to accomplishing a goal. In the grand scheme of things, you have a lot to accomplish and a lot to be passionate about. Once you have written down your life goals, you have more direction for your life than you think. Most of the things you do should be related to reaching those goals in some way. Read them, internalize them, and make moves.
  2. Find Inspiration: When you feel like you lack direction, listen to a podcast, watch a Youtube video, read a personal growth blog or book. You should be dedicating some time each day to this. I find myself feeling the most lost when I haven’t invested time into myself and my personal growth. Invest in yourself so that you have passion and dedication to give to everything in your life. A lack of direction causes a lack of passion and that is something that begins to diminish your ability to reach the goals you have set for yourself. My personal favorite Youtubers are KalynNicholson, LavendaireLifestyle, and AmbrosiaMalbrough. I love listening to GaryVee on IG or his Podcast. There also several other Podcasts I love and listen to regularly for inspiration in addition to the books I read.
  3. Do Something You Love: Doing something engaging that you love and that ideally helps you to reach a life goal is an integral part of maintaining direction in your life. I love to write and so I find that posting to the blog actually makes me feel full and accomplished, even though I shy away from posting when I’m having a tough time navigating life. Do something that brings you energy and good vibrations. Do something that reminds you what you love and guides you back to what you want to ultimately accomplish in life.
  4. Remind yourself that YOU are in control: It is SO important to remember that we are in control of our own lives (God ultimately, but he gave us free will). If you are stuck, it is because you made a decision to be that way. We are not victims of our circumstances but creators of our reality. It is important to realize that if we want to be somewhere else, we can.  You can choose to do anything, be anything, go anywhere. Don’t choose to let it overwhelm you. Let it inspire you and motivate you to go in a direction and if you hate it, go a different way.
  5. Get in touch with your spirituality: My faith in god has allowed me to be able to meditate, engage in dialogue, and have some direction in and about my work. Having a spiritual place to go to regroup and reorganize the feelings you have about the purpose for your life has been absolutely life-changing for me. Find a spiritual place that works for you and lean into that when you are lost. Put your life into perspective. Ask yourself why you are here, now? Rewrite your life goals if you have to. Find a place that continuously pushes you back to your life’s purpose.

 

These are ways that I navigate through the times when I feel lost and uninspired. There are so many times when we go through those feelings of comparing ourselves to other 20 somethings, making difficult decisions that actually seem impossible, and just getting overwhelmed because we feel like we aren’t where we should be. Acknowledge those feelings, then let those feelings of anxiety die. Feed your purpose and your passions so much that they thrive.

 

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Letting Go Of Society’s Timelines for Your Life

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There have been many moments where I have thought about my age and immediately started panicking about the fact that I haven’t accomplished something or reflecting on some insignificant measure of success. There have been times where I have literally given myself undue anxiety about the fact that I don’t own property (if you own property, that’s actually great).  Society measures success by a list of standards and most of those standards make a person LOOK successful rather than truly telling me anything about that person. What is success anyways? I’ve discussed in a previous post that we define our own success and are responsible for creating our standards of success for ourselves as individuals.

However, defining our success can be difficult when society has created timelines for nearly everything that we do in our lives from getting married to owning a home and even having children. Society literally says we should have our own business by a certain age, only switch careers before a certain age, and refuse to take risks if the timing isn’t perfect. I also published a post previously about refusing to limit yourself based on the ideas that you believe are “realistic”. Free your mind of the box that someone has labeled “For women younger than 30” or “For people who are over 50” or even “For people who have money, house, car, etc.”.

I’m beyond tired of people creating rules for when things should happen in other people’s lives and it isn’t going to stop. But what we can do is create our own rules and choose to live by a unique standard that truly inspires others. Your timeline may not fit everyone else’s because your story is unlike anyone else’s so do what suits YOU. Keep writing your own story and living your own truth while creating your own standards and timeline for success.

If you know me personally, you know that I look much younger than my actual age. In my career, my reality has been that people have underestimated my experience and skill set because of their perception of my age and what they feel that my experience should be. That is unfair because it impacts my career mobility if I am not highly communicative about my abilities and experience (even while displaying those abilities in the workplace). I say that to demonstrate that we can’t push our “should be” mentality on other people. We can’t go around placing things in boxes because they are operating on a different timeline from what society has taught us to expect.

I want you to think intentionally this week about the things that you want to accomplish, why, and when. I want you to reflect on your whys and be sure that they fulfill you and not just other people’s standards of success. Then pat yourself on the back for what you have accomplished already because it is a lot more than you think and there is no timeline except the one that society has created FOR you without your permission. Yeah, no thanks.

 

Lacey Alanna

 

 

How To Be A Realist Without Placing Limits on Yourself

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During my career transition journey, I have found myself placing so many limits on myself, labeling it as realism. People often get confused about the differences between being a realist and placing limits on yourself. This misunderstanding is easy to have because the two are so closely related. However, it is SO important that we know the difference between the two so that we can live a life that fulfills us in the most amazing ways.

I don’t measure my success by other people’s standards and I don’t compare myself to others intentionally or as much as I used to in the past. Comparing myself less and doing fewer things just to make others happy with my choices was a huge part of my personal growth journey. However, I first began to notice that I was placing major limits on myself when my boyfriend told me not to take small opportunities when I knew I was worth more and to have the patience to wait for bigger and better. This was so enlightening for me and really empowered me to reach for bigger and better. I realized that I am enough and that there is no harm in shooting for opportunities that seem like a bit of a reach.

Planning for the launch of my vintage boutique has also made me realize that I have habitually placed limits on my potential. I found myself afraid to make certain decisions, postponing the launch over and over again because I am afraid of failure. I’ve looked at other boutique owners and thought that I wasn’t going to be as lucky to have such a successful business. I have succeeded to convince myself that I am not “them”. These are times when it is important to recognize that you can be realistic without ruling things out and placing limits on your potential or abilities.

So what is the difference between being a realist and placing limits on yourself?

When you are a simply a realist without placing limits on yourself, you make decisions based on a mixture of fact and intuition. You are “realistic” in your decision making but you don’t box yourself into a certain job or life. When you place limits on yourself, you allow negative self talk to convince you to go one way over another. When you place limits on yourself, your mind places a box around you and within it lie your abilities and your potential.

After realizing that I was placing limits on my potential, I realized that I was living carefully, inside certain boxes, on eggshells trying not to break any rules. I have moved away from that limited mindset by taking a shot at opportunities or activities that I may not have before. I have practiced envisioning myself doing things I may not have previously. Your mind can be your worst enemy or your greatest ally but I think you have to make that choice.

If you leave this post with nothing else, leave refusing to place limits on your potential. Live life intentionally but STAY OPEN. Don’t box yourself in and stick to the limits that your mind places on you to do things, avoid things, look, or live a certain way. Most importantly, step a little bit outside of your comfort zone from time to time. You might love it. If you hate it, you go back and try something else.

Thanks for reading!

Lacey Alanna

 

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Intuition and How it Has Completely Changed the Way I Make Decisions

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Intuition is a new buzzword that people are using to talk about self-improvement and personal growth. I’ve heard it in several podcasts, Youtube videos, and personal growth blogs. But what is intuition really? How do we use it to influence our every day?  I literally used to ask myself those very questions when I would hear the word. I never got a clear answer until I started my own personal growth journey last year.

I used to really struggle with decision-making. Whenever it was time to make a major decision, I would make pros and cons lists, google related advice, avoid coming to a decision, and just be extremely stressed, overwhelmed, and confused. Decision-making never had to be that hard! It was when I started making major decisions about my career that I learned how to use intuition to help me make the right decisions.

Intuition is the art of knowing. It’s knowing what is best for yourself based on a feeling. When I made the decision to quit my teaching job to work on my masters degree and explore my passions (travel, entrepreneurship), I made a list of pros and cons. I googled “qutting teaching” and “should I quit my job” and read forums filled with opinions every day. I knew that I loved teaching but I also knew that I would never be sure if it was the right path for me unless I ventured into something else.

I asked people for their advice constantly on whether I should be a flight attendant, looking for my perfect answer from someone else. What I found was that I was looking for certain answers to the questions that I was asking. I wanted people to tell me to go for it, to quit my job and go to flight attendant training. That was what I really wanted to do and I was waiting for someone else to validate a decision I had already made within my self.

Intuition is all about your true desires and what is right for you. As I searched for answers from outside sources, I realized that the answer was within me and really I was just searching for validation from other places. I know it sounds cliche but we know our heart’s desires and our visions for ourselves.

It is logical to make decisions based on your goals for yourself. It is intuitive to make decisions based on how you feel about certain situations in a moment or series of moments. Intuition is about following that voice, that inner voice that speaks when you think long and hard about the decision that faces you.

Here are some concrete ways I started using my intuition to guide my decision making:

  • I decided not to do things that made me feel weary, uneasy, or gave me overall negative vibes. Plain and simple.
  • When asking for advice, I would pay close attention to the answers that it seemed I was looking for. You have to admit that when you ask for advice, usually you know what you want to hear. That is your deepest desire, that thing you want to hear, that thing you want to be encouraged to do.

Becoming more in tune with my intuition has been a game changer for me, like seriously. I find myself less dissatisfied with the decisions I am making because I am listening to and following my instincts on situations that are right for me and those that might not be such a good fit.

What decisions are you faced with at the moment? How can you improve your ability to use your intuition in your decision-making process? What can you do to channel your intuition more everyday?

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Thanks for reading!

Lacey Alanna

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My 2018 Manifesto, Goals, and Why I Don’t Believe in New Year Resolutions

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Happy New Year!

I’m so excited about the new year,  not because anything will automatically be different because of the change of date. I’m excited because it is a great time to reflect and to begin concentrated effort on new goals for myself and my life. Before the end of 2017, I had been one of those humans that just lives, exists in the world. I was sort of living life as it comes, being more reactive than proactive about my life.

Today, I wanted to discuss the shifts in mindset that took place for me toward the middle to end of 2017 and how those shifts have contributed to my goals for 2018. In addition, I want to talk about why I believe that New Year Resolutions are a complete load of crap and how I set myself up for success in other ways.

During the last week of 2017, I carved out time to reflect on the past year. I realized how far I’ve come in my personal growth journey because as I reflected, I realized that I didn’t have any clear cut goals for last year . You’re probably like what?! Don’t be like I was…create goals! Here’s what I did differently in preparation for 2018 to give me a more clear, centered approach to measuring my success toward my lifelong goals at the end of the year:

  1. I created 5 goals for myself that I’d like to accomplish by the end of 2018. I chose to only create 5 big goals for the year because I wanted to be able to really focus my efforts this year. I think any more than 5 goals a year can get overwhelming, difficult to remember, and can cause a lack of focus in daily efforts. I picked 5 goals, just 5 that will ultimately lead me to the accomplishment of my life goals. If you haven’t created a list of life goals, subscribe and consider doing that first using my FREE 1 Year Goal Setting Worksheet you will receive.
  2. I chose a theme for the year. My theme for this year is “Be consistent, stay focused”. All 5 of my goals for the year are centered around this theme.  I wanted my goals to be cohesive and to build character. I have found that in the past I have lacked consistency and focus which has prevented me from building healthy and strong habits in many areas of my life. My mind goes back to the quote, “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence is then not an act, but a habit”. The most successful people have strong habits that promote excellence across their lives. My theme is that extra push I need to build my character in a different way than I have in the past.
  3. I created a visual manifesto. I created a diagram pictured below that displays my hopes and dreams for the year. It illustrates the visions I have for myself in different areas of my life such as my finances, body, mind, and business. I have included a picture below of my manifesto with my personal goals listed to the right (covered with sticky notes), not fancy AT ALL. I am a visual person and this was a very important part of really gaining a cohesive and pertinent vision for myself. I hung this in my work area so that I can see it and internalize it daily. Knowing your goals and vision for yourself is an integral part of your personal growth and your ability to accomplish those goals and realize that vision.

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Why I Don’t Believe in New Year Resolutions

I don’t believe in resolutions because they really aren’t effective. Let’s face it, no one sticks to their resolutions. However, goals are tangible and I think people should think about their motivation or their why for particular goals. That is what keeps you going when it gets difficult and you want to give up. Your whys are what make you fight harder to reach the goals you’ve set for yourself. Take a look at your whys when you get discouraged. Take a look at your visual manifesto when you lack focus. There is so much power in those tools. Creating a resolution each year with no implementation strategy is not living intentionally or proactively. Make your own rules about how you want to set and accomplish your goals but be strategic in the course of your journey.

What goals have you set for 2018 and beyond? What life goals have you set? What or who are your whys? What tools will you take from this post and implement for a successful year and life?

 

Thanks for reading!

Lacey Alanna

 

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Why I Quit My Job AGAIN After Only a Month, Intuition, and What’s Next

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   I really grappled with the decision to continue to update readers of the blog on my career decisions and changes. I struggled with deciding whether I should bare it all or keep things impersonal and solely help YOU to make YOUR own rules for your life. I went through phases of feeling like a quitter or a failure because things turned out differently than I thought they would. I went through feelings of being afraid that people would look at me a certain way or project negativity on to me because of my career decisions.  I also got over it fairly quickly.

     I decided to share my personal growth journey with readers simply because doing so aligns with my mission for this blog and this brand (read the “About” page for more on the specifics). I’m here to truly touch people’s lives in a real and helpful way.  I never want to stop sharing my stories and personal experiences if they can move others in the same way that they have moved me. Read on to find out why I quit my job as a flight attendant after only a month and what my overarching themes will be for the next year and beyond.

     As I prepared for Flight Attendant Training, I thought that this new career was going to be a welcome change. It would give me a mental break from teaching (my previous career), give me time to work on my Masters Degree, and give me the opportunity to explore my passions, I thought. I was so excited and so prepared. I didn’t care about the pay cut, the nights away from home, the rigorous training. I just wanted to travel the world for  F R E E  and live life adventurously while getting paid to do it!

I completed training, relocated to my new base (Minneapolis, MN), and began working. I liked being a flight attendant. It was easy, fun, and I got to travel for free on my limited off days.

So why did I quit?

The problem was me. The job was not a good spiritual fit for me as I felt a decreased sense of purpose in my work. In addition to the extreme financial struggles, health issues caused by flying, a crazy loaded work schedule, decreased time for family and my relationship, and adoption of a nomadic lifestyle, the job simply did not align with the life goals that I had recently rewritten for myself.  Many of the goals I set for myself for 3 years, 5 years, and life would be extremely difficult to accomplish working as a flight attendant. Therefore,  I made the decision that I would quit my job as a flight attendant and seek joy in other passions that were more aligned with my goals.

What’s next for me?

  • More Blogging!
  • Coaching
  • Entreprenuership
  • Masters Degree!
  • More Service to others
  • Intention in EVERYTHING I choose to do

Before I end this post, I want to take a few moments to discuss the importance of knowing and following your intuition. Intuition can be a difficult concept to understand because it is so elusive and is not black and white. I knew I needed to move on after only a month because I felt disconnected and misaligned with my purpose in my role as a flight attendant. It was a feeling of knowing that I had. No one can tell you what decisions to make, what to do with your career, when to quit your job, or whether a path is right for you. It is simply a combination of trial and error mixed with a lot of following your gut. Follow your intuition no matter what and I guarantee you’ll always be glad you did.

Thanks for reading!

Lacey Alanna

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What To Do When You Land Your Dream Job and It Sucks

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You prepared for the interview for days, maybe weeks for the job of your dreams. You bought an amazing interview outfit and you even visualized yourself in that office, or work space over and over. You watched you tube videos or maybe did an online search to learn as much as you could about this gig. You may have asked other people in the position about its perks, sought advice, and obsessed over the prospect of this new position, new pay, new start.  So you land the job and then you realize…you aren’t nearly as happy as you thought you’d be. Your anxious excitement has turned into stress and dread.

Look in the mirror

Sometimes people find themselves looking for something,  but then never really find it. People often want a new job, new clothes, new pay, new friends, a new town and think that if they get those things, everything would be a million times better for them. Sometimes things really do get better, but sometimes they don’t. Ask yourself, are you afraid of failure? Are you overthinking it? Are you in your own head with negativity? If you are, stop. Be more positive about the job and reflect on why you wanted it in the first place.

Re-invest in yourself

If you really dislike the job, spend some time investing in yourself. Re-visit your goals, wants, needs, and life’s purpose. Then make sure that your current position aligns with your overall vision for yourself and your life.  Figure out what you can do to work toward those things daily from your current position. If there is a misalignment then you may be in the wrong career. If you aren’t goal-setting and reflecting daily or even weekly then you may have trouble finding the alignment between your career and life goals. In that case, read my post on daily reflections and goal-setting linked below!

https://laceyalanna.com/2017/12/02/how-goal-setting-daily-reflections-will-change-your-life/

Remember that you are NOT a failure 

If the job doesn’t work out for you, that doesn’t make you a failure. YOU define your own success no matter what. Whether you leave the job or decide to make the best of it and stay positive is up to you and how you choose to feel about that decision is up to YOU. As long as you are happy on your journey, you have succeeded in some sense. Don’t let anyone else’s opinion affect how you define success in your life. To read more about how to make your own rules in spite of other’s opinions, read my post from last week:

https://laceyalanna.com/2017/12/11/i-dont-care-what-people-think-making-your-own-rules-about-peoples-opinions/

Thanks for reading!

Lacey Alanna

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