Letting Go Of Society’s Timelines for Your Life

Personal Growth Journey

There have been many moments where I have thought about my age and immediately started panicking about the fact that I haven’t accomplished something or reflecting on some insignificant measure of success. There have been times where I have literally given myself undue anxiety about the fact that I don’t own property (if you own property, that’s actually great).  Society measures success by a list of standards and most of those standards make a person LOOK successful rather than truly telling me anything about that person. What is success anyways? I’ve discussed in a previous post that we define our own success and are responsible for creating our standards of success for ourselves as individuals.

However, defining our success can be difficult when society has created timelines for nearly everything that we do in our lives from getting married to owning a home and even having children. Society literally says we should have our own business by a certain age, only switch careers before a certain age, and refuse to take risks if the timing isn’t perfect. I also published a post previously about refusing to limit yourself based on the ideas that you believe are “realistic”. Free your mind of the box that someone has labeled “For women younger than 30” or “For people who are over 50” or even “For people who have money, house, car, etc.”.

I’m beyond tired of people creating rules for when things should happen in other people’s lives and it isn’t going to stop. But what we can do is create our own rules and choose to live by a unique standard that truly inspires others. Your timeline may not fit everyone else’s because your story is unlike anyone else’s so do what suits YOU. Keep writing your own story and living your own truth while creating your own standards and timeline for success.

If you know me personally, you know that I look much younger than my actual age. In my career, my reality has been that people have underestimated my experience and skill set because of their perception of my age and what they feel that my experience should be. That is unfair because it impacts my career mobility if I am not highly communicative about my abilities and experience (even while displaying those abilities in the workplace). I say that to demonstrate that we can’t push our “should be” mentality on other people. We can’t go around placing things in boxes because they are operating on a different timeline from what society has taught us to expect.

I want you to think intentionally this week about the things that you want to accomplish, why, and when. I want you to reflect on your whys and be sure that they fulfill you and not just other people’s standards of success. Then pat yourself on the back for what you have accomplished already because it is a lot more than you think and there is no timeline except the one that society has created FOR you without your permission. Yeah, no thanks.

 

Lacey Alanna

 

 

25 Means I Make the Rules.

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I have been writing drafts of posts for the last two weeks, promising myself that I will find the perfect words to finish them. However, in honor of turning a quarter century old, I wanted to start over and reflect on things I’ve learned thus far as it relates to where I am right now in my life and the themes I see for myself now and in the future. I wanted to share these things with you just in case you’re at the same place or you find yourself here and you’re looking for someone to say “I was there too” like I am.

A few months ago, I quit my career and did something totally different. It has certainly been a journey, even if not the journey I expected it to be. I took the road less traveled by and by and here I am. I’m at an intersection between old things, new things, self discovery, and living life with purpose. I appreciate that I will never wonder “what if” about certain decisions in my life, even if those decisions ended up turning out differently than expected. I will live knowing that I tried and I conquered difficult things even if those things weren’t necessarily my purpose or my calling. That experience and growth is the foundation for the growth that I will share with you below…

So I’m 25 and I’m still not 100 percent sure what I want to do with my life.  In the past I knew what I wanted but wondered how I would get there, if I would get there. I found myself second-guessing decisions that I made, wondering how they would impact my future. I found myself doubting more often because it’s so hard to be sure of anything at this age. I found myself caring too much what others would think because I wanted to be fun, fabulous, beautiful,  and successful. I wanted other people to think those things about me and about my life and what they see.  I had a lot of questions and not enough answers about how to live my very best life. Most importantly, I measured success by the standards of others and not by my own.

With that being said I’ve learned so much in the past 6 months, more than I have time to list. Lets be honest, flight attending with a regional airline wasn’t what I thought it would be by a long shot and that is totally okay. However, I want to share that the things I want at 25 are not the same as what I wanted at younger ages.  NOW, I want a successful blog where I can reach followers who are like me, wondering how to navigate the waters of living a fulfilling life. NOW, I want a successful business that impacts people and will leave the world better than it was in some small way.

The difference between myself at 20,21,22,23 and myself NOW is that I make the rules, I break the rules, and I always win. NOW, I am in control and I can do whatever makes me happy. NOW, I know that things don’t always work out as planned but they work out how they are supposed to and that makes all the difference.

Whatever year of life this is for you, own it. YOU make the rules and you break them if you want. You come out on top no matter what and absolutely anything is possible if you want it to be. There are gonna be many times when you change your mind, you come up with a better plan, you rewrite the plan. 25 for me will be a year of self-love, self-discovery, doing what I love, and making my own rules. I’ve lived and I’ve conquered so much already. I look forward to taking this blog to the next level and conquering even more challenges that lie ahead and writing my own story, plot twists included.

What have you done just to say you did it? What rules have you written for yourself, void of the judgments and opinions of others? How have you defined success for yourself and not by the standards of others?

See you in the friendly skies.

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Day 17: If You Think You Can, You Can.

Personal Growth Journey

I was waiting for the perfect day to update you on my training experience and today felt right for so many reasons. Two people left training today. 39 of us came here with a purpose, a story, a goal, and it hurts to see people forced to abandon the journey and take another path. I think we all came here for something and will leave better, newer, and most will leave with their flight attendant wings. But the reality set in today that some really great people would leave without the job.

It was super important for me to share the last 8 days with you because it’s important that you understand that everything doesn’t go perfectly and life is not about succeeding every single time. It’s about the triumph, and timing, and hard work, having a good attitude, and seeing things through even when it’s hard. In the last week I have cried 5 times (lost count actually), failed a test (passed the retake), doubted myself more than ever, been extremely confident in my abilities, and actually realized “I’m doing this for real” AND booked my first FREE flight (my flight home in two weeks).

So I’m in the middle of the hardest part of training, emergency procedures. It is important for me to mention that I failed a drill because I felt really down on myself and self doubt started to creep in immediately which made it even harder for me to pass that particular drill. You can breathe a sigh of relief now because I did end up passing on my final attempt. I believe that things happen for a reason and that people have purposes. If I can help anyone in any way, I am fulfilled.  I say that because I want to leave you with this…If you think you can’t, then you can’t. If you think something is too hard, then it is. Failure is ONLY in the mind. Whatever you think you can do, is what you can do. Whatever doubt you have in yourself will show and manifest itself in your life. Believe in yourself and your abilities. Believe you can and you can. This applies to EVERYTHING.

See you in the friendly skies.