Personal Growth Journey

There are SOOOOO many buzz words that are popular right now to describe the things that we would like to accomplish in the new year. Some people still call these “resolutions” which is a somewhat dated, but widely used.  Some people simply create yearly goals for themselves. However, lately the word “intention” has been highly popular and has stuck with those who take any interest in mindful living or practices.

Whatever you call these goals, coming up with a clear vision for your year and your life is super important. It has been said time and time again that we create our own realities. We manifest the things that happen in our lives. We visualize and speak truth over our lives, as crazy as it sounds. I one hundred and fifty percent believe this to be true whether in a positive or negative fashion. I believe that if I tell myself that I suck at something repeatedly, that will be my reality. If I tell myself that I will be wildly successful, then that will be my reality. Now, this doesn’t mean that suddenly I am going to sing like Whitney Houston or grow 6 inches and be an international supermodel at 26. What it means is that, so much is possible if we actually believe that good things can happen to us and that we are deserving of those good things. Being able to clearly define what you want to accomplish or be more aware of makes you more likely to make it happen in your life.

I wanted to share the intentions I have set for 2019 with you to motivate you to really think long and hard about what your focus is for this new year and for your life in general. Now, I do believe that goal-setting and intention-setting are a bit different. In my opinion, setting intentions is more like defining focus areas for your year rather than explicitly listing items one would like to accomplish in a checklist format. I think that intentions can have a more spiritual overtone and are about living your life on purpose in a different way than goals. However, I also believe that there is a ton of overlap between the two. So anyways, here is my short list of intentions for 2019:

  1. Build my business – I want to eventually work for myself completely so this is a no-brainer
  2. Take care of my body – I want to eat better, listen to my body, exercise sometimes, and rest when I need it
  3. Make more friends – I really want to master the art of making friends as an adult because as of now I could use some help in that department and that is OKAY.
  4. Buy a home – I literally just want to be cozy and have lots and lots of space in addition to creative control over the place.
  5. Slow downnnnnI want to be more present, work less, feel more, enjoy every moment.
  6. Travel often – This goes without saying but like literally I love traveling and I want to take every opportunity that comes.

If you haven’t set your intentions for 2019, think about what your high impact improvement areas are currently. I emphasized mental health this year because last year was mentally challenging for me and I saw through blogging and just talking to friends,  that we really do create our realities and have the power to shift those realities by making changes to our habits. A second high impact area for me was career/finances because I consistently struggle with fulfillment in any job, especially those with longer hours. I really wanted to focus this year on moving past my disdain for working for someone else and into my desire to live a life that is full of so much more than what I do for a living.

What are your intentions for this year? I’d love to hear some of your goals, resolutions, or intentions for 2019!

Sincerely,

Lacey Alanna

5 Ways to Navigate Feeling Lost in Your 20’s

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All week, I have been planning on writing a travel post about relocation and why I have relocated twice since I graduated from college. That post will definitely come later if people are interested. But, my intuition told me to write this post because of where I am currently. I thought that a post about this weird millenial, quarter-life crisis thing that most people experience in their 20s (and really at any time) would speak to so many people.

Sometimes I tend to get overwhelmed and have a lost feeling when it comes to my career and my life’s work. I literally feel unfulfilled and like there are a million things I should be doing, a million places I could be. But, part of me has no idea what those things are and what those places could be. These are things that I do to help me to navigate those times when I feel like I have no freaking clue about anything! Sometimes, I get overwhelmed by the amount of possibility that life offers compared with the potential I feel that I have. Then I end up feeling defeated and overwhelmed. It happens but this is how I find my way when it seems impossible…

 

  1. Revisit Life Goals: When you feel lost, it is super helpful to revisit your life goals. What have you done lately to push yourself to reach those goals? What things are you doing today to help you reach those goals? What will you do this week to help you reach those goals? This motivates me in every way to get up and go do something that really contributes to accomplishing a goal. In the grand scheme of things, you have a lot to accomplish and a lot to be passionate about. Once you have written down your life goals, you have more direction for your life than you think. Most of the things you do should be related to reaching those goals in some way. Read them, internalize them, and make moves.
  2. Find Inspiration: When you feel like you lack direction, listen to a podcast, watch a Youtube video, read a personal growth blog or book. You should be dedicating some time each day to this. I find myself feeling the most lost when I haven’t invested time into myself and my personal growth. Invest in yourself so that you have passion and dedication to give to everything in your life. A lack of direction causes a lack of passion and that is something that begins to diminish your ability to reach the goals you have set for yourself. My personal favorite Youtubers are KalynNicholson, LavendaireLifestyle, and AmbrosiaMalbrough. I love listening to GaryVee on IG or his Podcast. There also several other Podcasts I love and listen to regularly for inspiration in addition to the books I read.
  3. Do Something You Love: Doing something engaging that you love and that ideally helps you to reach a life goal is an integral part of maintaining direction in your life. I love to write and so I find that posting to the blog actually makes me feel full and accomplished, even though I shy away from posting when I’m having a tough time navigating life. Do something that brings you energy and good vibrations. Do something that reminds you what you love and guides you back to what you want to ultimately accomplish in life.
  4. Remind yourself that YOU are in control: It is SO important to remember that we are in control of our own lives (God ultimately, but he gave us free will). If you are stuck, it is because you made a decision to be that way. We are not victims of our circumstances but creators of our reality. It is important to realize that if we want to be somewhere else, we can.  You can choose to do anything, be anything, go anywhere. Don’t choose to let it overwhelm you. Let it inspire you and motivate you to go in a direction and if you hate it, go a different way.
  5. Get in touch with your spirituality: My faith in god has allowed me to be able to meditate, engage in dialogue, and have some direction in and about my work. Having a spiritual place to go to regroup and reorganize the feelings you have about the purpose for your life has been absolutely life-changing for me. Find a spiritual place that works for you and lean into that when you are lost. Put your life into perspective. Ask yourself why you are here, now? Rewrite your life goals if you have to. Find a place that continuously pushes you back to your life’s purpose.

 

These are ways that I navigate through the times when I feel lost and uninspired. There are so many times when we go through those feelings of comparing ourselves to other 20 somethings, making difficult decisions that actually seem impossible, and just getting overwhelmed because we feel like we aren’t where we should be. Acknowledge those feelings, then let those feelings of anxiety die. Feed your purpose and your passions so much that they thrive.

 

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Letting Go Of Society’s Timelines for Your Life

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There have been many moments where I have thought about my age and immediately started panicking about the fact that I haven’t accomplished something or reflecting on some insignificant measure of success. There have been times where I have literally given myself undue anxiety about the fact that I don’t own property (if you own property, that’s actually great).  Society measures success by a list of standards and most of those standards make a person LOOK successful rather than truly telling me anything about that person. What is success anyways? I’ve discussed in a previous post that we define our own success and are responsible for creating our standards of success for ourselves as individuals.

However, defining our success can be difficult when society has created timelines for nearly everything that we do in our lives from getting married to owning a home and even having children. Society literally says we should have our own business by a certain age, only switch careers before a certain age, and refuse to take risks if the timing isn’t perfect. I also published a post previously about refusing to limit yourself based on the ideas that you believe are “realistic”. Free your mind of the box that someone has labeled “For women younger than 30” or “For people who are over 50” or even “For people who have money, house, car, etc.”.

I’m beyond tired of people creating rules for when things should happen in other people’s lives and it isn’t going to stop. But what we can do is create our own rules and choose to live by a unique standard that truly inspires others. Your timeline may not fit everyone else’s because your story is unlike anyone else’s so do what suits YOU. Keep writing your own story and living your own truth while creating your own standards and timeline for success.

If you know me personally, you know that I look much younger than my actual age. In my career, my reality has been that people have underestimated my experience and skill set because of their perception of my age and what they feel that my experience should be. That is unfair because it impacts my career mobility if I am not highly communicative about my abilities and experience (even while displaying those abilities in the workplace). I say that to demonstrate that we can’t push our “should be” mentality on other people. We can’t go around placing things in boxes because they are operating on a different timeline from what society has taught us to expect.

I want you to think intentionally this week about the things that you want to accomplish, why, and when. I want you to reflect on your whys and be sure that they fulfill you and not just other people’s standards of success. Then pat yourself on the back for what you have accomplished already because it is a lot more than you think and there is no timeline except the one that society has created FOR you without your permission. Yeah, no thanks.

 

Lacey Alanna

 

 

How To Be A Realist Without Placing Limits on Yourself

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During my career transition journey, I have found myself placing so many limits on myself, labeling it as realism. People often get confused about the differences between being a realist and placing limits on yourself. This misunderstanding is easy to have because the two are so closely related. However, it is SO important that we know the difference between the two so that we can live a life that fulfills us in the most amazing ways.

I don’t measure my success by other people’s standards and I don’t compare myself to others intentionally or as much as I used to in the past. Comparing myself less and doing fewer things just to make others happy with my choices was a huge part of my personal growth journey. However, I first began to notice that I was placing major limits on myself when my boyfriend told me not to take small opportunities when I knew I was worth more and to have the patience to wait for bigger and better. This was so enlightening for me and really empowered me to reach for bigger and better. I realized that I am enough and that there is no harm in shooting for opportunities that seem like a bit of a reach.

Planning for the launch of my vintage boutique has also made me realize that I have habitually placed limits on my potential. I found myself afraid to make certain decisions, postponing the launch over and over again because I am afraid of failure. I’ve looked at other boutique owners and thought that I wasn’t going to be as lucky to have such a successful business. I have succeeded to convince myself that I am not “them”. These are times when it is important to recognize that you can be realistic without ruling things out and placing limits on your potential or abilities.

So what is the difference between being a realist and placing limits on yourself?

When you are a simply a realist without placing limits on yourself, you make decisions based on a mixture of fact and intuition. You are “realistic” in your decision making but you don’t box yourself into a certain job or life. When you place limits on yourself, you allow negative self talk to convince you to go one way over another. When you place limits on yourself, your mind places a box around you and within it lie your abilities and your potential.

After realizing that I was placing limits on my potential, I realized that I was living carefully, inside certain boxes, on eggshells trying not to break any rules. I have moved away from that limited mindset by taking a shot at opportunities or activities that I may not have before. I have practiced envisioning myself doing things I may not have previously. Your mind can be your worst enemy or your greatest ally but I think you have to make that choice.

If you leave this post with nothing else, leave refusing to place limits on your potential. Live life intentionally but STAY OPEN. Don’t box yourself in and stick to the limits that your mind places on you to do things, avoid things, look, or live a certain way. Most importantly, step a little bit outside of your comfort zone from time to time. You might love it. If you hate it, you go back and try something else.

Thanks for reading!

Lacey Alanna

 

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3 Ways to Get Motivated When you Feel Like Doing Absolutely Nothing

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On Sunday, I woke up and followed my normal weekend routine. I rolled over, turned on some tv and started scrolling my social media accounts (all bad habits btw that completely go against my normal morning routine). But I share that to make a point. Getting motivated to accomplish things when you feel like doing absolutely nothing is HARD. It is undeniably one of the biggest daily challenges I face on the days I am not working.

I think about my goals every day and I reflect on them. My goals have the ability to move me sometimes. But most times, I’d rather sit and watch tv, read a book, and relax. That is perfectly okay sometimes. But when you spend too much of your free time relaxing, you find that you don’t have time to do all the things you need to do to accomplish your goals, spend time enjoying your hobbies, and get your odds and ends done.

Anyways, back to Sunday; I was able to turn a seemingly lazy day into a very productive one by just doing a few things. I suggest doing the following to get motivated when you really don’t feel like doing anything at all.

  1. Think about your whys.

Your whys are the reasons behind wanting to accomplish your goals. For example, a goal of mine is to exercise twice a week. The reason that goal is important to me is because I want to have a healthier and more physically fit body. I have also read that physical activity can decrease chronic pain and help with stress. Those are all reasons that I strive to exercise twice a week and those reasons motivate me to look at the result of my action rather than the action itself. The idea of exercising doesn’t make me want to get up and go to the gym. But, the idea of a better body and decreased anxiety does! Write down your whys near your goals and always revisit them.

2. Reward yourself.

Rewarding yourself can be an amazing motivator to help get you moving. It works for me more often than not. I often have to promise myself something to motivate me to do activities that I have anxiety about or that I just really don’t feel like doing. For example, I sometimes promise myself that if I get up and go to the gym for 30 minutes,  I can spend an hour watching a show I love.  This works like a charm for me. Simply try to use what you like to motivate you.

3. Take the first step

I’d say on average I spend way more time dreading doing an activity than it would take to just get up and do it. The hardest part of getting something done is always just taking the first step. So, do it. Stop thinking about it and take the first step. Once you do, every step after that is ten times easier. That first step might be getting out of bed or going out the door. Half the battle is won once you take the first step toward doing anything.

 

I believe that these steps are key to getting things done when stress, anxiety, fear, are all trying to keep you from getting motivated enough to take action. It can also be helpful to have an accountability partner and to build strong habits/routines. Accomplishing your goals and living the life you want is up to you.

 

What is the hardest part of getting motivated for you? How can you reward yourself? What is the first step that you always struggle with?

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Thanks for reading!

 

Lacey Alanna

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My 2018 Manifesto, Goals, and Why I Don’t Believe in New Year Resolutions

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Happy New Year!

I’m so excited about the new year,  not because anything will automatically be different because of the change of date. I’m excited because it is a great time to reflect and to begin concentrated effort on new goals for myself and my life. Before the end of 2017, I had been one of those humans that just lives, exists in the world. I was sort of living life as it comes, being more reactive than proactive about my life.

Today, I wanted to discuss the shifts in mindset that took place for me toward the middle to end of 2017 and how those shifts have contributed to my goals for 2018. In addition, I want to talk about why I believe that New Year Resolutions are a complete load of crap and how I set myself up for success in other ways.

During the last week of 2017, I carved out time to reflect on the past year. I realized how far I’ve come in my personal growth journey because as I reflected, I realized that I didn’t have any clear cut goals for last year . You’re probably like what?! Don’t be like I was…create goals! Here’s what I did differently in preparation for 2018 to give me a more clear, centered approach to measuring my success toward my lifelong goals at the end of the year:

  1. I created 5 goals for myself that I’d like to accomplish by the end of 2018. I chose to only create 5 big goals for the year because I wanted to be able to really focus my efforts this year. I think any more than 5 goals a year can get overwhelming, difficult to remember, and can cause a lack of focus in daily efforts. I picked 5 goals, just 5 that will ultimately lead me to the accomplishment of my life goals. If you haven’t created a list of life goals, subscribe and consider doing that first using my FREE 1 Year Goal Setting Worksheet you will receive.
  2. I chose a theme for the year. My theme for this year is “Be consistent, stay focused”. All 5 of my goals for the year are centered around this theme.  I wanted my goals to be cohesive and to build character. I have found that in the past I have lacked consistency and focus which has prevented me from building healthy and strong habits in many areas of my life. My mind goes back to the quote, “We are what we repeatedly do. Excellence is then not an act, but a habit”. The most successful people have strong habits that promote excellence across their lives. My theme is that extra push I need to build my character in a different way than I have in the past.
  3. I created a visual manifesto. I created a diagram pictured below that displays my hopes and dreams for the year. It illustrates the visions I have for myself in different areas of my life such as my finances, body, mind, and business. I have included a picture below of my manifesto with my personal goals listed to the right (covered with sticky notes), not fancy AT ALL. I am a visual person and this was a very important part of really gaining a cohesive and pertinent vision for myself. I hung this in my work area so that I can see it and internalize it daily. Knowing your goals and vision for yourself is an integral part of your personal growth and your ability to accomplish those goals and realize that vision.

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Why I Don’t Believe in New Year Resolutions

I don’t believe in resolutions because they really aren’t effective. Let’s face it, no one sticks to their resolutions. However, goals are tangible and I think people should think about their motivation or their why for particular goals. That is what keeps you going when it gets difficult and you want to give up. Your whys are what make you fight harder to reach the goals you’ve set for yourself. Take a look at your whys when you get discouraged. Take a look at your visual manifesto when you lack focus. There is so much power in those tools. Creating a resolution each year with no implementation strategy is not living intentionally or proactively. Make your own rules about how you want to set and accomplish your goals but be strategic in the course of your journey.

What goals have you set for 2018 and beyond? What life goals have you set? What or who are your whys? What tools will you take from this post and implement for a successful year and life?

 

Thanks for reading!

Lacey Alanna

 

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Why I Quit My Job AGAIN After Only a Month, Intuition, and What’s Next

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   I really grappled with the decision to continue to update readers of the blog on my career decisions and changes. I struggled with deciding whether I should bare it all or keep things impersonal and solely help YOU to make YOUR own rules for your life. I went through phases of feeling like a quitter or a failure because things turned out differently than I thought they would. I went through feelings of being afraid that people would look at me a certain way or project negativity on to me because of my career decisions.  I also got over it fairly quickly.

     I decided to share my personal growth journey with readers simply because doing so aligns with my mission for this blog and this brand (read the “About” page for more on the specifics). I’m here to truly touch people’s lives in a real and helpful way.  I never want to stop sharing my stories and personal experiences if they can move others in the same way that they have moved me. Read on to find out why I quit my job as a flight attendant after only a month and what my overarching themes will be for the next year and beyond.

     As I prepared for Flight Attendant Training, I thought that this new career was going to be a welcome change. It would give me a mental break from teaching (my previous career), give me time to work on my Masters Degree, and give me the opportunity to explore my passions, I thought. I was so excited and so prepared. I didn’t care about the pay cut, the nights away from home, the rigorous training. I just wanted to travel the world for  F R E E  and live life adventurously while getting paid to do it!

I completed training, relocated to my new base (Minneapolis, MN), and began working. I liked being a flight attendant. It was easy, fun, and I got to travel for free on my limited off days.

So why did I quit?

The problem was me. The job was not a good spiritual fit for me as I felt a decreased sense of purpose in my work. In addition to the extreme financial struggles, health issues caused by flying, a crazy loaded work schedule, decreased time for family and my relationship, and adoption of a nomadic lifestyle, the job simply did not align with the life goals that I had recently rewritten for myself.  Many of the goals I set for myself for 3 years, 5 years, and life would be extremely difficult to accomplish working as a flight attendant. Therefore,  I made the decision that I would quit my job as a flight attendant and seek joy in other passions that were more aligned with my goals.

What’s next for me?

  • More Blogging!
  • Coaching
  • Entreprenuership
  • Masters Degree!
  • More Service to others
  • Intention in EVERYTHING I choose to do

Before I end this post, I want to take a few moments to discuss the importance of knowing and following your intuition. Intuition can be a difficult concept to understand because it is so elusive and is not black and white. I knew I needed to move on after only a month because I felt disconnected and misaligned with my purpose in my role as a flight attendant. It was a feeling of knowing that I had. No one can tell you what decisions to make, what to do with your career, when to quit your job, or whether a path is right for you. It is simply a combination of trial and error mixed with a lot of following your gut. Follow your intuition no matter what and I guarantee you’ll always be glad you did.

Thanks for reading!

Lacey Alanna

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What To Do When You Land Your Dream Job and It Sucks

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You prepared for the interview for days, maybe weeks for the job of your dreams. You bought an amazing interview outfit and you even visualized yourself in that office, or work space over and over. You watched you tube videos or maybe did an online search to learn as much as you could about this gig. You may have asked other people in the position about its perks, sought advice, and obsessed over the prospect of this new position, new pay, new start.  So you land the job and then you realize…you aren’t nearly as happy as you thought you’d be. Your anxious excitement has turned into stress and dread.

Look in the mirror

Sometimes people find themselves looking for something,  but then never really find it. People often want a new job, new clothes, new pay, new friends, a new town and think that if they get those things, everything would be a million times better for them. Sometimes things really do get better, but sometimes they don’t. Ask yourself, are you afraid of failure? Are you overthinking it? Are you in your own head with negativity? If you are, stop. Be more positive about the job and reflect on why you wanted it in the first place.

Re-invest in yourself

If you really dislike the job, spend some time investing in yourself. Re-visit your goals, wants, needs, and life’s purpose. Then make sure that your current position aligns with your overall vision for yourself and your life.  Figure out what you can do to work toward those things daily from your current position. If there is a misalignment then you may be in the wrong career. If you aren’t goal-setting and reflecting daily or even weekly then you may have trouble finding the alignment between your career and life goals. In that case, read my post on daily reflections and goal-setting linked below!

https://laceyalanna.com/2017/12/02/how-goal-setting-daily-reflections-will-change-your-life/

Remember that you are NOT a failure 

If the job doesn’t work out for you, that doesn’t make you a failure. YOU define your own success no matter what. Whether you leave the job or decide to make the best of it and stay positive is up to you and how you choose to feel about that decision is up to YOU. As long as you are happy on your journey, you have succeeded in some sense. Don’t let anyone else’s opinion affect how you define success in your life. To read more about how to make your own rules in spite of other’s opinions, read my post from last week:

https://laceyalanna.com/2017/12/11/i-dont-care-what-people-think-making-your-own-rules-about-peoples-opinions/

Thanks for reading!

Lacey Alanna

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“I Don’t Care What People Think”: Making Your Own Rules About People’s Opinions

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People always make it known that they don’t care about the opinions of others. It’s like rule number 1 in the whole self-acceptance, self-love stratosphere. Everyone’s favorite stance is the whole “I don’t care what other people think” stance which is one I completely agree with having. However, I didn’t always think that way and I’m mindful that there are so many people who are still navigating through what it means to make their own rules as far as people’s opinions go. It isn’t about not caring what people think. Making your own rules and leading a peaceful life is about ceasing to internalize the opinions of others to the point of losing yourself.

If we are being honest, that is a place that I am not too far removed from. It is only in the last 4 to 6 months that I have really stopped internalizing people’s opinions about my decisions and my life in general. That means I lived almost 25 whole years living my life to some extent based on what other people had to say in place of how I felt. These are some of the ways that I stopped making decisions and basing my existence on how others felt and started making my own rules about how I could effectively use feedback in my life.

     Have confidence in your decisions and in the way you live your life… I mean you are making your own rules, right? If you are making decisions in an effective way that produces the best outcomes for YOU, then you have no reason to lack confidence in those decisions. The only way that people’s negative opinions about your decisions and your life affect you is if you aren’t confident in your decisions and your life to start with. There have been so many times when people had negative things to say about the way I live my life (i.e. “why did she quit teaching? why would she want to be a flight attendant? why are you doing it this way? That’s crazy!”). There were also many times in the beginning that I didn’t feel confident that the decisions I was making were the best ones. Those were the times that the negativity affected me most. Don’t let that happen to you. When you are confident, no comments or opinions can ruin what you have going on.

Don’t reveal every move to every person… There are so many people who are super important to me. I value those individuals, I seek their advice (not their approval), and I care to hear opinions, of course. However, everyone in your life is not one of those individuals. I say that to emphasize the importance of letting decisions and your life in general play out. Social media is such a HUGE part of how we interact with other people and how some people seek approval, but we have to remember that everyone doesn’t need to know every detail of our lives. There are certain things that I choose to keep private and I RARELY make announcements about my life on social media. That has been in major part, due to the fact that it can be so hard to find approval within yourself, let alone approval from others. Don’t tell everyone every move because everyone does not deserve a place at the table where your life’s rules are written. You decide who gets a place and who doesn’t, bottom line.

Decide who your people are and why. I mean really, decide who gets a seat at that table we talked about and why you are granting them that position. Also, be sure that you are giving those valuable voices a place to give you advice, to help talk you through the difficult things, but not a place to grant or deny their approval for your decisions. My mom’s opinion is always important to me because she’s so smart and she is often affected by my decisions. However, her opinion is not often a deciding factor on anything for me. I love my people and I have my reasons for the trust that I have in their voices, but my voice is always the loudest. The reason for that is that at the end of the day, when you are in the solitude of your mind, you have to face yourself. You have to live with the rules that you have written for yourself, the plans that you’ve made, the life you have built. So decide.

Are you seeking advice or approval? How do you incorporate feedback without internalizing opinions? To whom are you revealing your moves and why? Who are your people and why? What will you do today to make your own rules about people’s opinions?

Thanks for reading!

Lacey Alanna

 

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How Goal-Setting & Daily Reflections Will Change Your Life.

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For the last two months, I have been really reflective about my life’s purpose and what I would like to accomplish. Sometimes when you feel unbalanced and lack focus, you have to re-center yourself and take a good look at the bigger picture. I stumbled across some information on how the most successful people set tangible goals and accomplish them. Bottom line.

Through some deep reflection, I realized that for most of my life, I have been accomplishing goals that I didn’t really know I had. This has caused me to sometimes lack focus and even motivation to live my life in a way that fulfills my purpose and works daily toward my goals. I have been effective, always producing a desired or intended result. However, I have not been efficient, achieving maximum productivity with minimum wasted effort or expense.

So recently, I decided that I wanted to not only write down and meditate on my goals for 2018, but I also wanted to reflect on them daily based on reflection prompts. I wanted to figure out a way to live each day intentionally to work toward those goals and my life’s purpose.  Here is what I did and what you can do TODAY to become clearer and more focused on your goals in preparation for the New Year.

FIRST: Set Goals for your life and WRITE THEM DOWN. It is important to set tangible and specific goals for your life. It is equally as important to write them down or type them into a document where they can be viewed regularly. I did this by starting a journal (I LOVE journals/writing in notebooks). The journal is for daily writing and reflections. The very first page features my life goals, all the goals. The second page features my 5 year goals. These goals align with life goals and should be like small milestones toward my bigger goals. *My worksheet that I have posted in my workspace features my goals for the current year. Knowing specifically what these goals are is key to creating goals for your year. Start big and make your goals more focused as the timeline decreases. Having big goals that are accessible to you helps you to refocus yourself when you forget why your smaller goals and day to day actions are so important.

*I wrote my 1 year goals on my 1 Year Goal Setting Worksheet which you can receive FREE when you subscribe to the blog. The worksheet gives you space to write down your important theme for the year, your goals, and the reason why those goals are so important to you as a daily reminder. I posted the worksheet somewhere it is visible daily.

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 SECOND: Reflect Daily! I have committed myself to waking up earlier every morning to start each day by reflecting on my goals. Daily, I take a look at my life goals, 5 year goals, and 2018 goals. Before I start my day, I ask myself: What can I do TODAY to achieve the goals I’ve set or to make progress toward my goals?  At the end of my day, I ask myself: What have I done today to make progress toward the goals I’ve set for myself? Reflection is soooo important because it focuses your day so that you are intentional in everything that you do or at least more of the things that you do on a daily basis. This is so helpful for me because there are so many days I feel like sitting on the couch binge-watching a new show on Netflix or scrolling Instagram/watching YouTube videos for hours. By reflecting daily, I have become more motivated to do at least one to two activities in my free time that push me closer toward accomplishing the goals that I really want to accomplish.  I have become more hardworking, persistent, and intentional through my daily reflections. I still enjoy my free time, but I try to split my time to force myself to use some of it more intentionally.

The significance of documenting reflections…

Using my journal that I previously mentioned, I write down any thoughts and reflections I have around goals, spirituality, or my purpose and contributions in a given day. Each page is dated and includes any spiritual reflections I had after readings I have done. This is important because there is value in seeing your growth. There is also a great deal of value in realizing that your day was either super productive or it wasn’t the most effective use of the time you have to accomplish your goals (whether that is a year, five years or a lifetime). Without reflection and small adjustments to the work you do everyday, your goals are just dreams. You turn dreams into tangible goals by doing the work. 

Sidenote: An important component of goal setting that I haven’t discussed is being purpose driven. Before writing even one goal, I have done a lot of reflecting on my purpose. Before you set goals, think about what you are passionate about and how you can impact those around you. I’ve done a great deal of reflection on my life’s purpose in order to set goals that help to fulfill that purpose.

Ask yourself: What do I want to be remembered for when I’m no longer around? What goals do I need to accomplish for that to be possible? What small goals are important to accomplish today that will lead me to accomplish bigger goals tomorrow? What habits or mindsets can I adjust to be more efficient daily?

Start reflecting on your purpose TODAY. Start writing down your goals TODAY. Start doing the work TODAY.

 

Thank You,

Lacey Alanna

 

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