Relocation Series Part 2: Happiness is Not a Place

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Welcome to the second post in my multi-blog series about relocating! This post will be one that is centered around the mental health issues that surround relocation to a certain extent. I think that people should be able to read this post and really evaluate their reasons for an upcoming relocation or even their reasons for wanting to relocate. This post might also help you to plan a crucial conversation with a family member or friend who is thinking of moving away.

A Bit of Background:

My relocation count is currently at 3ish with another planned for July 2019. My first taste of relocation was to a college over 250 miles away from home (6 hour drive). That relocation was so important for me and I truly consider that transition a relocation because I was 17 years old and I was only able to make it home a couple times a year (besides summer vacation, of course).

My second relocation happened after college graduation. I moved to a city about an hour away from my hometown. Although it was close by, I was in a whole new world and I had some amazing experiences!

Both of these relocations had one thing in common. In both of these instances, I moved away from issues that I faced in my life including family issues that caused anxiety. My mental health caused me to make decisions from a pretty young age that were based in fear and overwhelm rather than confidence and agency over my life.

EVERY TIME I moved out of fear or anxiety, I sought some sort of happiness that I realized was always going to be out of reach, unattainable. I realized that I went from place to place carrying my baggage with me, setting it down for a while and picking it back up again and again to move onto the next location yet again. Your problems follow you. Your emotions follow you. Your mental health or unhealth follows you. Time after time, I would move and find myself wondering; Why am I still unhappy? Why don’t I like it here?

On the contrary, my third relocation of over 1,400 miles as well as my pending relocation have both been for completely different reasons. I have had agency and ownership over these experiences. My mental health hasn’t really guided the decisions and that is the most freeing feeling.

The Whys of Relocation

The most important thing to be aware of is that relocation is not an answer to the problems we face in our current location. I know, because I’ve tried it and it never works. I want to make that very clear before I talk about my amazing experiences & adventures in the posts that follow. I don’t want to sensationalize relocation or long distance moves.

If you are suffering internally, handle it before or immediately after making a big move. Go to therapy, do some soul searching, reconnect with yourself. I only say this because there is one huge lesson I have learned from my many relocations and travel adventures; Happiness is not a place. Instead it is a state of mind that we merely carry with us in our travels.

Sincerely,

Lacey Alanna

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There’s a lot to be said about gratitude journals. They are effective and work for different people in different ways. I find that when I am extremely anxious and need to wind down before I step foot outside my workplace, writing down a few things I am grateful for can shift my focus a bit. I look at those things and I tell myself that life could be a lot worse. I mean everyone has something that they can be thankful for in one way or another. However, what do you do when gratitude journals don’t do it anymore?  What do you do when your stress level is beyond the point where a gratitude journal even scratches the surface on your anxiety and stress?

I find myself asking these very questions everyday because realistically, we lose control of our stress level sometimes. I find myself looking for other things to take my mind off work, all the work I do, all the work I need to do, being at work, working, and did I mention work? How do we take back control over our lives in ways other than writing down a couple things we are grateful for here and there?

Here are 5 things you can try other than writing in a gratitude journal to take the edge off the anxiety and stress. No guarantees, but it never hurts to try something new.

  1. Do Yoga

My go-to stress and anxiety buster is yoga. When I’m at the end of my rope with the muscle tension caused by daily stress, I run to the nearest yoga class and force myself onto the mat. It isn’t something I do regularly out of a lack of convenience and desire to commit to a membership. However, I recently discovered a cheap online yoga membership and am eager to see how that works out for me. Yoga melts the tension away and allows me to actually wind down and relax after a hard, long workday.

2.  Read a Self-Help Book

I will say it is hard to sit down and read a book with a super busy schedule. However, nightly reading can take the edge off and give you something else to think about and reflect on during stressful times. I particularly love self help books because they relax you while simultaneously making you at least think about improving yourself.

3. Write

I write posts for a blog so I mean…

Even if you think no one else will read what you write, just write something. I literally brain dump into the notes app on my iPhone some nights because there are so many thoughts I have to just evict from my mind. If you aren’t a writer, type. No one ever has to see it. Just stop letting negative thoughts, anxiety, and stress make a comfortable living space out of your brain.

4. Beautify yo’ self

Do your nails, hair, face mask. Doing some sort of self care, even if it is just one thing, can work wonders on your confidence and distract you from the stress. Making yourself look better makes you feel better. We don’t always have the time or money for a full makeover, but doing something, anything can make a small difference. Just try it and you will understand. I bought a gel polish kit and whenever Im feeling meh, I give myself a gel manicure that lasts for two weeks. I decompress and I enjoy my cute nails, making the investment totally worth it.

5.  Meet up with friends or potential friends

I just moved to the Austin area about a year ago and for the longest time, I would make excuses about not having friends.  I would barely leave the house unless it was for work or shopping. Recently, I went to my first happy hour with people I met on the Meetup app and it was like a whole new world opened up to me. There are so many apps, venues, and organizations that allow you to meet like-minded people who also don’t have a ton of local friends. I can’t use the “I don’t have friends” excuse much longer because it’s been a year since I’ve been in the area. Go out, live a little and don’t be afraid of being social. Having friends and a social life can really take a small bite out of the everyday stress bubble we allow ourselves to live in.

Sincerely,

Lacey Alanna

The List: Rediscovering Joy as a Working 20 Something

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The other day, I found myself in my car, sitting in the parking lot of a crowded grocery store wondering when life became so routinized. My weeks have become bogged down with work, eating, sleeping, and doing it again. Meanwhile, my weekends have become laundry, cleaning up the mess that has accumulated throughout the week in my tiny room/apartment, meal prep, working out, and catching up on the sleep that I was deprived of during the week. My reality has become doing these things over and over and over and over. It has become so routinized that I have fallen into the rut of  going as far as eliminating things I used to enjoy and replacing them with errands, chores, the busywork of life.

So there I am, in my car having a mini meltdown because I realized that my once joyful and creative life has become an extended business trip. Why do we prioritize things that bring us no joy and that bring little value to our life over things that make us happy? Why do we sacrifice so much of ourselves to get the busywork of life done? I asked myself this question this week and I ventured to find a solution to the rut I had found myself in so many times.

I decided to make a list because lists solve so many problems, right? I made a list of all the things that bring me joy in life like being with my significant other, hanging out with my closest friends, traveling, etc. My list consisted of about 12 items that really brought me sheer and utter happiness. Then I read through the list and checked off the number of things that I experienced on a daily or at least weekly basis. Of the 12 items that bring me the most joy in life, I experienced 3 regularly! THREE! How is that? If this was my truth, how had I gone on so long this way?

My big takeaway from creating the list was that it is so important that we incorporate joy into the everyday, especially when we find ourselves unintentionally eliminating the things that make us happiest because we are “busy”. After looking at the list, I decided that I would gradually try to reintroduce some of the things on my list back into my life. For example, I used to always binge watch shows on Netflix and now I NEVER do. Yes, television is poison and I should be reading books and doing yoga blah blah blah. However, I am a firm believer that everything we love should be enjoyed in moderation.

As 20 somethings, some of us get caught up in careers, money, problems, chores, responsibilities, love, and we forget to do what we love to do for ourselves. I challenge you to make your list! List all the things that bring you the most joy and then see how many you incorporate into your life regularly. You may be a pro at this. You also might be failing miserably at incorporating joy. It’s your job to find out and to rediscover what makes you happiest, then do it.

With that being said…..

 

I’M GOING TO THAILAND! More on that soon.

 

LaceyAlanna

 

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Diary of a 20 Something: Chit Chat about Vlogging, Relocating, and Re-Branding

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I haven’t blogged in so long and that is partly because I’ve been thinking about the re-branding of the blog. I want to be real with people and show readers that so many 20-somethings go through some of the same things and that none of us is alone. Teaching people how to become a slightly better version of themselves is so helpful and necessary, but there also needs to be a space where young women’s concerns, stresses, and just life experiences can be shared and acknowledged. There needs to be a space where young women, especially of color can be like “hey, other people go through this” and “wow, I’m not just living in the twilight zone”, considering the weird things that happen in your 20’s and maybe even 30’s (I’m not there yet so I wouldn’t know).

I still haven’t figured out what that looks like for the blog,  although I do feel like vlogging fits into that space. So, that is something I am exploring at the moment.  However, this week I needed to just write SOMETHING because as content creators, we don’t always have to wait for the perfect post or the perfect time to create and release new content. I also haven’t written anything in a while because I have been fully immersed in teaching 4th grade which has been an interesting and welcome change for me.

Anyways, vlogging is something I’m very interested in. Many people who read and love the blog have asked me to create a YouTube channel because some people just don’t enjoy reading. I totally get it.  However, I am a perfectionist and don’t want to start making videos that aren’t quality as far as aesthetics, content, and just garnering people’s interest. It is the fear of failure sometimes that stops me from going full steam ahead with something. However, I’m taking my time to make an informed decision about whether vlogging is something I want to do and something I have time for realistically.

Where I’m at right now…

Next, I wanted to talk about relocating. I have relocated numerous times, depending on what you consider relocating. I went to college in Pennsylvania, close to Buffalo, NY. Then I moved to Washington, DC after I graduated to experience big city life and be closer to my hometown, Baltimore. I loved DC but it was a bit pretentious and expensive for my taste. However, I find myself missing DC now along with my dc friends and considering it a second home. After 2 years in DC, I decided to move south to Houston, TX for the warmer weather and the lower cost of living. I LOVED Houston and started to meet people and establish a life. Then, I fell in love with a guy who I am currently with (shout out to him and to love and all that stuff) and found myself in San Marcos, TX between Austin and San Antonio.

I must say I have managed to form a love affair with every place I have lived EXCEPT this one. I’m not sure what it is about the Austin area that just doesn’t do it for me. Maybe it is the fact that I haven’t made any friends here or I don’t get out much or that I live in a small college town and the big city is 30 miles away. Not sure, but I know that I am ready to move to a location that is ideal for buying a home and living long term. I have lived many places because I have chosen for my life to be that way, being a single 20 something. Now, I am growing and longing for stability and I think one more relocation is in my near future. Not sure where that will be, but closer to family on the east coast or in the southeast would be ideal. Any suggestions? I totally also want to write a post about my relocations and my experiences living in each of these areas. I believe that the place you live can have a major effect on your overall happiness and your life and plan to discuss that more in detail in a later post. Relocations are something that most 20 somethings either go through with or think about at some point.

My next post will be more structured perhaps, or maybe not but the Diary of a 20 Something will be a series of posts you can find under categories where I will chit chat about life, struggles, thoughts, ideas, plans, and the things that we face every day as we are in the words of SZA, stuck in those 20 somethings.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

5 Ways to Navigate Feeling Lost in Your 20’s

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All week, I have been planning on writing a travel post about relocation and why I have relocated twice since I graduated from college. That post will definitely come later if people are interested. But, my intuition told me to write this post because of where I am currently. I thought that a post about this weird millenial, quarter-life crisis thing that most people experience in their 20s (and really at any time) would speak to so many people.

Sometimes I tend to get overwhelmed and have a lost feeling when it comes to my career and my life’s work. I literally feel unfulfilled and like there are a million things I should be doing, a million places I could be. But, part of me has no idea what those things are and what those places could be. These are things that I do to help me to navigate those times when I feel like I have no freaking clue about anything! Sometimes, I get overwhelmed by the amount of possibility that life offers compared with the potential I feel that I have. Then I end up feeling defeated and overwhelmed. It happens but this is how I find my way when it seems impossible…

 

  1. Revisit Life Goals: When you feel lost, it is super helpful to revisit your life goals. What have you done lately to push yourself to reach those goals? What things are you doing today to help you reach those goals? What will you do this week to help you reach those goals? This motivates me in every way to get up and go do something that really contributes to accomplishing a goal. In the grand scheme of things, you have a lot to accomplish and a lot to be passionate about. Once you have written down your life goals, you have more direction for your life than you think. Most of the things you do should be related to reaching those goals in some way. Read them, internalize them, and make moves.
  2. Find Inspiration: When you feel like you lack direction, listen to a podcast, watch a Youtube video, read a personal growth blog or book. You should be dedicating some time each day to this. I find myself feeling the most lost when I haven’t invested time into myself and my personal growth. Invest in yourself so that you have passion and dedication to give to everything in your life. A lack of direction causes a lack of passion and that is something that begins to diminish your ability to reach the goals you have set for yourself. My personal favorite Youtubers are KalynNicholson, LavendaireLifestyle, and AmbrosiaMalbrough. I love listening to GaryVee on IG or his Podcast. There also several other Podcasts I love and listen to regularly for inspiration in addition to the books I read.
  3. Do Something You Love: Doing something engaging that you love and that ideally helps you to reach a life goal is an integral part of maintaining direction in your life. I love to write and so I find that posting to the blog actually makes me feel full and accomplished, even though I shy away from posting when I’m having a tough time navigating life. Do something that brings you energy and good vibrations. Do something that reminds you what you love and guides you back to what you want to ultimately accomplish in life.
  4. Remind yourself that YOU are in control: It is SO important to remember that we are in control of our own lives (God ultimately, but he gave us free will). If you are stuck, it is because you made a decision to be that way. We are not victims of our circumstances but creators of our reality. It is important to realize that if we want to be somewhere else, we can.  You can choose to do anything, be anything, go anywhere. Don’t choose to let it overwhelm you. Let it inspire you and motivate you to go in a direction and if you hate it, go a different way.
  5. Get in touch with your spirituality: My faith in god has allowed me to be able to meditate, engage in dialogue, and have some direction in and about my work. Having a spiritual place to go to regroup and reorganize the feelings you have about the purpose for your life has been absolutely life-changing for me. Find a spiritual place that works for you and lean into that when you are lost. Put your life into perspective. Ask yourself why you are here, now? Rewrite your life goals if you have to. Find a place that continuously pushes you back to your life’s purpose.

 

These are ways that I navigate through the times when I feel lost and uninspired. There are so many times when we go through those feelings of comparing ourselves to other 20 somethings, making difficult decisions that actually seem impossible, and just getting overwhelmed because we feel like we aren’t where we should be. Acknowledge those feelings, then let those feelings of anxiety die. Feed your purpose and your passions so much that they thrive.

 

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Letting Go Of Society’s Timelines for Your Life

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There have been many moments where I have thought about my age and immediately started panicking about the fact that I haven’t accomplished something or reflecting on some insignificant measure of success. There have been times where I have literally given myself undue anxiety about the fact that I don’t own property (if you own property, that’s actually great).  Society measures success by a list of standards and most of those standards make a person LOOK successful rather than truly telling me anything about that person. What is success anyways? I’ve discussed in a previous post that we define our own success and are responsible for creating our standards of success for ourselves as individuals.

However, defining our success can be difficult when society has created timelines for nearly everything that we do in our lives from getting married to owning a home and even having children. Society literally says we should have our own business by a certain age, only switch careers before a certain age, and refuse to take risks if the timing isn’t perfect. I also published a post previously about refusing to limit yourself based on the ideas that you believe are “realistic”. Free your mind of the box that someone has labeled “For women younger than 30” or “For people who are over 50” or even “For people who have money, house, car, etc.”.

I’m beyond tired of people creating rules for when things should happen in other people’s lives and it isn’t going to stop. But what we can do is create our own rules and choose to live by a unique standard that truly inspires others. Your timeline may not fit everyone else’s because your story is unlike anyone else’s so do what suits YOU. Keep writing your own story and living your own truth while creating your own standards and timeline for success.

If you know me personally, you know that I look much younger than my actual age. In my career, my reality has been that people have underestimated my experience and skill set because of their perception of my age and what they feel that my experience should be. That is unfair because it impacts my career mobility if I am not highly communicative about my abilities and experience (even while displaying those abilities in the workplace). I say that to demonstrate that we can’t push our “should be” mentality on other people. We can’t go around placing things in boxes because they are operating on a different timeline from what society has taught us to expect.

I want you to think intentionally this week about the things that you want to accomplish, why, and when. I want you to reflect on your whys and be sure that they fulfill you and not just other people’s standards of success. Then pat yourself on the back for what you have accomplished already because it is a lot more than you think and there is no timeline except the one that society has created FOR you without your permission. Yeah, no thanks.

 

Lacey Alanna

 

 

The Power of Self-Talk: What it is and How it Works

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Self-talk can be self-destructive or it can be an amazing tool that you use to promote optimism and grow more confident in your everyday life. What is self-talk and how does it help you to move forward in your personal growth journey?

I first became aware of self-talk when I started teaching preschool. I was taught that as a teacher, I had to demonstrate self-talk to my students. I had to intentionally share my thoughts out loud to show them my thought process whenever I read a book or completed a model activity. I was modeling self-talk so that my students could think more like me with a strong sense of reasoning and curiosity.

Later on, I discovered that we as adults engage in self-talk ALL THE TIME. We tell ourselves things that influence the way we think and feel about ourselves and the world around us. We tell ourselves things that shape our outlook about almost everything in our lives. I realized recently that some of my self-talk could sometimes be negative and has increased my anxiety, stress, and pessimism in certain areas of my life.

We create our own realities through our self-talk. If I tell myself that a tough situation is scary and negative, then I condition my brain to believe it. If I tell myself that a tough situation is temporary and I am going to grow through it, I also believe that. It is important that we use our self-talk to uplift ourselves, to condition ourselves to believe the positive about a situation or person, and to condition ourselves to believe the best about OURSELVES.

I often find myself anxious, tense, stressed because I have engaged in negative self-talk. We all find ourselves in that place, telling ourselves the worst. But, we have to recognize that place and change it when we do.

I believe that self-talk is extremely powerful. When I find myself in an anxious and uneasy place, I sometimes reflect on the things I have told myself and how they have become my reality, my world. I have completely immersed myself in ideas that I have conditioned myself to believe.

An important step toward self-love and acceptance is positive self-talk. Using this tool can change your mindset instantly about a situation, a person or yourself. Try the statements listed below and note the shift in energy that you experience almost instantly. Validate yourself, encourage yourself, create your own reality.

 

Positive Self-Talk

  • It’s not that bad
  • I am warranted in my decision
  • I feel this way because ________________ and that is valid.
  • I am strong and this situation is temporary.
  • I am intelligent and I can navigate this.
  • If  __________ happens, I will react by ___________.  That is the best I can do.
  • I have no control over ____________, but I can control how I react.
  • This is not a big deal. The worst that could happen is _____________________.
  • I am kind, I am strong, I am amazing.
  • This situation doesn’t define me.

 

Come up with some positive self-talk of your own and comment below.

What have you been telling yourself? Does it promote positivity and growth? How can you change your self talk to create a new reality?

Thanks for reading!

Lacey Alanna

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3 Ways to Get Motivated When you Feel Like Doing Absolutely Nothing

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On Sunday, I woke up and followed my normal weekend routine. I rolled over, turned on some tv and started scrolling my social media accounts (all bad habits btw that completely go against my normal morning routine). But I share that to make a point. Getting motivated to accomplish things when you feel like doing absolutely nothing is HARD. It is undeniably one of the biggest daily challenges I face on the days I am not working.

I think about my goals every day and I reflect on them. My goals have the ability to move me sometimes. But most times, I’d rather sit and watch tv, read a book, and relax. That is perfectly okay sometimes. But when you spend too much of your free time relaxing, you find that you don’t have time to do all the things you need to do to accomplish your goals, spend time enjoying your hobbies, and get your odds and ends done.

Anyways, back to Sunday; I was able to turn a seemingly lazy day into a very productive one by just doing a few things. I suggest doing the following to get motivated when you really don’t feel like doing anything at all.

  1. Think about your whys.

Your whys are the reasons behind wanting to accomplish your goals. For example, a goal of mine is to exercise twice a week. The reason that goal is important to me is because I want to have a healthier and more physically fit body. I have also read that physical activity can decrease chronic pain and help with stress. Those are all reasons that I strive to exercise twice a week and those reasons motivate me to look at the result of my action rather than the action itself. The idea of exercising doesn’t make me want to get up and go to the gym. But, the idea of a better body and decreased anxiety does! Write down your whys near your goals and always revisit them.

2. Reward yourself.

Rewarding yourself can be an amazing motivator to help get you moving. It works for me more often than not. I often have to promise myself something to motivate me to do activities that I have anxiety about or that I just really don’t feel like doing. For example, I sometimes promise myself that if I get up and go to the gym for 30 minutes,  I can spend an hour watching a show I love.  This works like a charm for me. Simply try to use what you like to motivate you.

3. Take the first step

I’d say on average I spend way more time dreading doing an activity than it would take to just get up and do it. The hardest part of getting something done is always just taking the first step. So, do it. Stop thinking about it and take the first step. Once you do, every step after that is ten times easier. That first step might be getting out of bed or going out the door. Half the battle is won once you take the first step toward doing anything.

 

I believe that these steps are key to getting things done when stress, anxiety, fear, are all trying to keep you from getting motivated enough to take action. It can also be helpful to have an accountability partner and to build strong habits/routines. Accomplishing your goals and living the life you want is up to you.

 

What is the hardest part of getting motivated for you? How can you reward yourself? What is the first step that you always struggle with?

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Thanks for reading!

 

Lacey Alanna

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Why I Quit My Job AGAIN After Only a Month, Intuition, and What’s Next

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   I really grappled with the decision to continue to update readers of the blog on my career decisions and changes. I struggled with deciding whether I should bare it all or keep things impersonal and solely help YOU to make YOUR own rules for your life. I went through phases of feeling like a quitter or a failure because things turned out differently than I thought they would. I went through feelings of being afraid that people would look at me a certain way or project negativity on to me because of my career decisions.  I also got over it fairly quickly.

     I decided to share my personal growth journey with readers simply because doing so aligns with my mission for this blog and this brand (read the “About” page for more on the specifics). I’m here to truly touch people’s lives in a real and helpful way.  I never want to stop sharing my stories and personal experiences if they can move others in the same way that they have moved me. Read on to find out why I quit my job as a flight attendant after only a month and what my overarching themes will be for the next year and beyond.

     As I prepared for Flight Attendant Training, I thought that this new career was going to be a welcome change. It would give me a mental break from teaching (my previous career), give me time to work on my Masters Degree, and give me the opportunity to explore my passions, I thought. I was so excited and so prepared. I didn’t care about the pay cut, the nights away from home, the rigorous training. I just wanted to travel the world for  F R E E  and live life adventurously while getting paid to do it!

I completed training, relocated to my new base (Minneapolis, MN), and began working. I liked being a flight attendant. It was easy, fun, and I got to travel for free on my limited off days.

So why did I quit?

The problem was me. The job was not a good spiritual fit for me as I felt a decreased sense of purpose in my work. In addition to the extreme financial struggles, health issues caused by flying, a crazy loaded work schedule, decreased time for family and my relationship, and adoption of a nomadic lifestyle, the job simply did not align with the life goals that I had recently rewritten for myself.  Many of the goals I set for myself for 3 years, 5 years, and life would be extremely difficult to accomplish working as a flight attendant. Therefore,  I made the decision that I would quit my job as a flight attendant and seek joy in other passions that were more aligned with my goals.

What’s next for me?

  • More Blogging!
  • Coaching
  • Entreprenuership
  • Masters Degree!
  • More Service to others
  • Intention in EVERYTHING I choose to do

Before I end this post, I want to take a few moments to discuss the importance of knowing and following your intuition. Intuition can be a difficult concept to understand because it is so elusive and is not black and white. I knew I needed to move on after only a month because I felt disconnected and misaligned with my purpose in my role as a flight attendant. It was a feeling of knowing that I had. No one can tell you what decisions to make, what to do with your career, when to quit your job, or whether a path is right for you. It is simply a combination of trial and error mixed with a lot of following your gut. Follow your intuition no matter what and I guarantee you’ll always be glad you did.

Thanks for reading!

Lacey Alanna

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What To Do When You Land Your Dream Job and It Sucks

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You prepared for the interview for days, maybe weeks for the job of your dreams. You bought an amazing interview outfit and you even visualized yourself in that office, or work space over and over. You watched you tube videos or maybe did an online search to learn as much as you could about this gig. You may have asked other people in the position about its perks, sought advice, and obsessed over the prospect of this new position, new pay, new start.  So you land the job and then you realize…you aren’t nearly as happy as you thought you’d be. Your anxious excitement has turned into stress and dread.

Look in the mirror

Sometimes people find themselves looking for something,  but then never really find it. People often want a new job, new clothes, new pay, new friends, a new town and think that if they get those things, everything would be a million times better for them. Sometimes things really do get better, but sometimes they don’t. Ask yourself, are you afraid of failure? Are you overthinking it? Are you in your own head with negativity? If you are, stop. Be more positive about the job and reflect on why you wanted it in the first place.

Re-invest in yourself

If you really dislike the job, spend some time investing in yourself. Re-visit your goals, wants, needs, and life’s purpose. Then make sure that your current position aligns with your overall vision for yourself and your life.  Figure out what you can do to work toward those things daily from your current position. If there is a misalignment then you may be in the wrong career. If you aren’t goal-setting and reflecting daily or even weekly then you may have trouble finding the alignment between your career and life goals. In that case, read my post on daily reflections and goal-setting linked below!

https://laceyalanna.com/2017/12/02/how-goal-setting-daily-reflections-will-change-your-life/

Remember that you are NOT a failure 

If the job doesn’t work out for you, that doesn’t make you a failure. YOU define your own success no matter what. Whether you leave the job or decide to make the best of it and stay positive is up to you and how you choose to feel about that decision is up to YOU. As long as you are happy on your journey, you have succeeded in some sense. Don’t let anyone else’s opinion affect how you define success in your life. To read more about how to make your own rules in spite of other’s opinions, read my post from last week:

https://laceyalanna.com/2017/12/11/i-dont-care-what-people-think-making-your-own-rules-about-peoples-opinions/

Thanks for reading!

Lacey Alanna

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