How To Be A Realist Without Placing Limits on Yourself

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During my career transition journey, I have found myself placing so many limits on myself, labeling it as realism. People often get confused about the differences between being a realist and placing limits on yourself. This misunderstanding is easy to have because the two are so closely related. However, it is SO important that we know the difference between the two so that we can live a life that fulfills us in the most amazing ways.

I don’t measure my success by other people’s standards and I don’t compare myself to others intentionally or as much as I used to in the past. Comparing myself less and doing fewer things just to make others happy with my choices was a huge part of my personal growth journey. However, I first began to notice that I was placing major limits on myself when my boyfriend told me not to take small opportunities when I knew I was worth more and to have the patience to wait for bigger and better. This was so enlightening for me and really empowered me to reach for bigger and better. I realized that I am enough and that there is no harm in shooting for opportunities that seem like a bit of a reach.

Planning for the launch of my vintage boutique has also made me realize that I have habitually placed limits on my potential. I found myself afraid to make certain decisions, postponing the launch over and over again because I am afraid of failure. I’ve looked at other boutique owners and thought that I wasn’t going to be as lucky to have such a successful business. I have succeeded to convince myself that I am not “them”. These are times when it is important to recognize that you can be realistic without ruling things out and placing limits on your potential or abilities.

So what is the difference between being a realist and placing limits on yourself?

When you are a simply a realist without placing limits on yourself, you make decisions based on a mixture of fact and intuition. You are “realistic” in your decision making but you don’t box yourself into a certain job or life. When you place limits on yourself, you allow negative self talk to convince you to go one way over another. When you place limits on yourself, your mind places a box around you and within it lie your abilities and your potential.

After realizing that I was placing limits on my potential, I realized that I was living carefully, inside certain boxes, on eggshells trying not to break any rules. I have moved away from that limited mindset by taking a shot at opportunities or activities that I may not have before. I have practiced envisioning myself doing things I may not have previously. Your mind can be your worst enemy or your greatest ally but I think you have to make that choice.

If you leave this post with nothing else, leave refusing to place limits on your potential. Live life intentionally but STAY OPEN. Don’t box yourself in and stick to the limits that your mind places on you to do things, avoid things, look, or live a certain way. Most importantly, step a little bit outside of your comfort zone from time to time. You might love it. If you hate it, you go back and try something else.

Thanks for reading!

Lacey Alanna

 

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Why I Quit My Job AGAIN After Only a Month, Intuition, and What’s Next

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   I really grappled with the decision to continue to update readers of the blog on my career decisions and changes. I struggled with deciding whether I should bare it all or keep things impersonal and solely help YOU to make YOUR own rules for your life. I went through phases of feeling like a quitter or a failure because things turned out differently than I thought they would. I went through feelings of being afraid that people would look at me a certain way or project negativity on to me because of my career decisions.  I also got over it fairly quickly.

     I decided to share my personal growth journey with readers simply because doing so aligns with my mission for this blog and this brand (read the “About” page for more on the specifics). I’m here to truly touch people’s lives in a real and helpful way.  I never want to stop sharing my stories and personal experiences if they can move others in the same way that they have moved me. Read on to find out why I quit my job as a flight attendant after only a month and what my overarching themes will be for the next year and beyond.

     As I prepared for Flight Attendant Training, I thought that this new career was going to be a welcome change. It would give me a mental break from teaching (my previous career), give me time to work on my Masters Degree, and give me the opportunity to explore my passions, I thought. I was so excited and so prepared. I didn’t care about the pay cut, the nights away from home, the rigorous training. I just wanted to travel the world for  F R E E  and live life adventurously while getting paid to do it!

I completed training, relocated to my new base (Minneapolis, MN), and began working. I liked being a flight attendant. It was easy, fun, and I got to travel for free on my limited off days.

So why did I quit?

The problem was me. The job was not a good spiritual fit for me as I felt a decreased sense of purpose in my work. In addition to the extreme financial struggles, health issues caused by flying, a crazy loaded work schedule, decreased time for family and my relationship, and adoption of a nomadic lifestyle, the job simply did not align with the life goals that I had recently rewritten for myself.  Many of the goals I set for myself for 3 years, 5 years, and life would be extremely difficult to accomplish working as a flight attendant. Therefore,  I made the decision that I would quit my job as a flight attendant and seek joy in other passions that were more aligned with my goals.

What’s next for me?

  • More Blogging!
  • Coaching
  • Entreprenuership
  • Masters Degree!
  • More Service to others
  • Intention in EVERYTHING I choose to do

Before I end this post, I want to take a few moments to discuss the importance of knowing and following your intuition. Intuition can be a difficult concept to understand because it is so elusive and is not black and white. I knew I needed to move on after only a month because I felt disconnected and misaligned with my purpose in my role as a flight attendant. It was a feeling of knowing that I had. No one can tell you what decisions to make, what to do with your career, when to quit your job, or whether a path is right for you. It is simply a combination of trial and error mixed with a lot of following your gut. Follow your intuition no matter what and I guarantee you’ll always be glad you did.

Thanks for reading!

Lacey Alanna

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Belize in Photos

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Welcome to a journey in photos through my time in Belize, Central America. Enjoy. 

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Landed in Belize City. Took a 45 minute ferry to Caye Caulker for a quiet night on the island.

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Had a quesadilla and margarita at a local bar. Walked along the short stony beach on Caye Caulker Island. Plenty of small boats and local eats on Caye Caulker Island. Quiet, private, and slow. Next stop, San Pedro, La Isla Bonita.

Walked the streets of San Pedro island. 45 minutes from Caye Caulker, about 90 minutes by ferry from Belize City. Beautiful beach, local shops, local restaurants, bars, and beautiful artistic flare.

more local shops, school children, a Belizean chocolate shop, small city streets and the infamous golf carts, and views from my hostel.

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Me making new friends and letting those friends convince me to go on a private plane ride over the blue hole. If you have never heard of the blue hole, google it. You will def want that on your bucket list!

Thank you for the lovely memories and another amazing solo adventure, Belize.

Email me with questions, comments, anything.

See you in the friendly skies.

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Flight Attendant Training FAQs

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Hi! I’m back with another flight attendant training information post. This is for those who are attending or want to attend flight attendant training. I compiled all the questions I have been asked via email or that I had when I began my FA journey. I wanted to give answers to these questions and provide you with more information on what to expect, how to prepare, and other things you may need to know on this adventure. So here goes…

  1. What is training like?    Training is difficult, emotional, rewarding, quick, and intense. You will make great friends but you may also meet people that challenge you in new ways. You will have highs and lows. You will feel so privileged to be where you are.  Enjoy every moment of it and make the most of it. I often regret wishing time away to move on to other things. Training is no exception to that.
  2. Describe the quality of life during training. Training  consists of 8-10 hour days (more 10 than 8). You will be waking up super early and sometimes late for your report time. Be sure to get lots of sleep, like prioritize sleep. You are responsible for your own food when you train with my airline (except mornings when the hotel serves breakfast). The hotel is really nice and rooms get cleaned every day. The hotel has quite a few amenities (not that you will have time to use them) including gym, hot tub, pool, printing station, and laundry onsite and in some units which makes it free.
  3. Is my airline the right one for me? How do I choose an airline? Choose an airline that is a good fit for you. I chose my airline based on things I heard from others. I never heard a single bad review and that really spoke to me. Then when I got to training, everything felt right. The rules were fairly strict, but there was a family feeling among staff and I felt valued by leadership. Those are factors that are important to me in choosing any company to start a career with.
  4. What can I wear during training?  Modesty is key. no cleavage, not too much leg, nothing risque’. Just keep it classy and modest.
  5. What should I bring to training that is not listed? I was really glad I brought a few snacks that I can only get a my local grocer from home. I also brought tupperware which was really helpful and saved me some $$$. I wish I had brought different clothing that was appropriate for the weather. I didn’t know it would be so cold so fast in Salt Lake City. I looked up weather averages for that city before packing but they are averages, not to be mistaken for actual forecasts for the month.
  6. How can I prepare for training? Save money, study your packet once received, know the rules in your packet well, and do your research.
  7. When will I get my uniforms? I received mine during the last week and a half of training.
  8. Will I be paid during training? Depends on your airline. At my airline, I was paid twice during training.
  9. What are the benefits like and when do they start? If you work for a regional airline, you will have benefits with multiple carriers for yourself and maybe even your parents, spouse, children, and travel companions of your choosing. Benefits start toward the end of training and can be used to travel home if you work with my airline.
  10. Best advice for those going to training?  From some of my classmates: Be ready to be tired and work hard, Go to bed early and pay attention in class, remember why you’re here on stressful days, stay positive, stay focused, work hard, don’t go out, do your own thing, don’t get caught up in social stuff, and drink water.
  11. How much money do I need? There is no ideal answer but having 1,000 dollars saved for during and after training is not a bad idea. Having money saved makes finding a living arrangement in your new base a lot easier after training.
  12. What was the hardest part of training?   For myself, it was bouncing back and staying motivated after failing a test or not doing so great on a test.
  13. Are relationships possible to maintain during training? Yes with a supportive partner and a will to succeed.
  14. Is training hard? In what way? Yes and no, see above questions and answers. Nothing is too hard for anyone, you got this!
  15. When will I learn my base? I got my base on the third to last day of training.

 

If you have more questions you would like to see answered, please go to the contact page and shoot me an email. I will do my best to answer all emails and maybe even make another post like this one.

Please comment on whether this was helpful to you.

See you in the friendly skies.

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I Took the Road Less Traveled Part 2 – What’s Next??!

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Yesterday for the first time in the two months since I quit my job as a teacher, I broke down and asked myself “What the h*ll are you doing?”. “Why would you quit your salaried job for the unknown?”, “Why would you give up everything (money, being able to pay all your bills, being able to shop often) to travel?”, “Whats the next big move and how will you top all your previous accomplishments?”.

When you decide to make some major changes and regain control of your life, these are questions you ask yourself. If you have anxiety, its extremely hard not to let the worry take over and literally convince you that you may be making bad decisions or that you are ruining your life. I’ve gone through so many phases on this journey that have included literally anticipating the absolute worst about pursuing a career doing something I’ve literally always loved doing.  Anyways with all that being said, I am so excited because there are like a million things I want to do and I wanted to write this post to share those things with people and maybe motivate someone who is thinking of taking a major leap of faith.

So here are the reasons I decided to leave my career as an educator and explore other avenues of work.

  • I wanted more time to explore my interests, passions, ideas. Teaching sucked up so much of my time because it is work that you constantly take home.
  • I wanted a job that would allow me to travel more regularly. (As a teacher breaks were great, but burnout and exhaustion that needed to be handled over the breaks were not.)
  • I wanted to put more time into some business ideas that I had and a blog which I have been able to start.
  • I literally wanted more freedom and control over my time and head space.
  • I need to eventually be working for myself, therefore I need a job that allows me free time to develop my business ideas and work toward self-employment.

For me, leaving my job was a great decision and was right for me. Don’t all go quitting your jobs at once!  Just evaluate the things in your life that you want to change and simply change them. I can’t stress this enough. My biggest takeaway from all of this is that I am in control and so are you. If you don’t like something, change it. If you hate your job, change it. If you dislike your partner, change it. If you are unhappy for any reason, do your best to change it and don’t be afraid to make some sacrifices in the process.

So, a lot of people want to know what’s next for me. I love to travel, I love to write, and so of course after lots of interviewing, thinking, making sacrifices, my next stop on this journey is…….

 

FLIGHT ATTENDANT TRAINING!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

See you in the friendly skies!

10 Ways to Save on Travel

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First and foremost let me say, I am ashamed and mortified of how long it took me to write this post. I have been wrapping up the school year (teacher life), TRAVELING (a week in the Dominican Republic, 4 days all over the east coast), and then interviewing for jobs. I’ve been super busy but I feel like a slightly horrible human being for making you guys wait so long with all the summer vacation plans waiting to be made. All that aside, I’m so excited to give you guys what you have been asking me for forever. Please read on to learn how you can save big money on travel allowing you to travel more often and have more money to splurge in the areas where you want to!

So these are just ten ways that I save money on travel expenses or spread out the cost allowing me to be able to travel multiple times a year. There are more but I wanted to get you guys these tips so that you can plan an amazing end of summer vacation that doesn’t completely ruin any budgeting you are attempting ( if you’re anything like me, attempting is the appropriate word here).

 1. Book airfare midweek and use tons of different tools to compare – I have found that if I sit down to look at flight prices on a Tuesday evening, I have much better chances of finding airfare in my budget than if I sit down when I have time on a Thursday, Friday, or Saturday night to book a flight. I’m not sure why, maybe because of web traffic but remember to always search flights at the beginning or middle of the week for the best prices possible. I always search flights for at least a week and a half span before purchasing to make sure I’m getting the best price (which also means I clear my web browsing history between searches. Flight prices shown increase  when sites notice that the same itinerary is being searched repeatedly.) Lastly, use tons of different tools to compare prices including direct airline websites. I use Expedia, Kayak, and Justfly. Once I price a flight on two to three of those sights, I also go directly to the carrier website to be sure that I’m not being charged an extra fee for using a third party site and that the deal I found is the best deal possible to fit my search criteria.

2. Be open about travel destinations when possible – Some of my best trips have been mostly to unintentional destinations. When I’m in the planning phases of making my vacay happen, I literally choose a budget and find accommodations and a destination that fits within that budget. I’m not usually too picky about where I go but I may have an idea of what my destination will be like i.e. warm, tropical, beaches, etc. I use a feature called explore on kayak.com to make this possible. I have included the link below. You put in the amount you want to spend on airfare, your home airport, the month & year or season and the feature shows you a map of all the places you can fly within that budget. Its amazing! I have booked two trips this way and had a great time in beautiful places.

https://www.kayak.com/explore/IAH

3. Be flexible about departure cities, times, etc. – So this one can be hard but when booking flights be flexible about departure airports. Sometimes it’s worth it to drive to an airport an hour away to get a cheaper fare. It is also worth it to take more days off work than you might need when possible so that you can make very flexible travel plans as far as times are concerned. Sometimes it is totally worth it and sometimes it is not so use your discretion there.

4. AirBNB vs Hotels – Don’t be afraid to stay in an AirBNB or hostel in your destination rather than a hotel! Some really decent spaces can be really inexpensive and allow you to do more such as cook in your living space and stay for an extended period of time at a great reduced rate.  When I went to Puerto Rico, I stayed in an amazing flat for like 250 for 4 or 5 nights and was able to refrigerate my snacks and lounge on the couch if I wanted to. I always go local because its cheaper and gives me the more authentic experience that I always look for.

5. Go Local! – I save money by going local. Buy some local food, cook in your hostel or flat, visit local bars for the cheapest drinks (with a friend of course), and stay away from resorts at all costs! I eat local street food and explore the city on foot whenever possible. I save a lot of money by being open to learning about a new culture and exploring and improvising where appropriate. Of course, if you are a solo traveler as I am most often, please please please use your best discretion when it comes to your own safety especially when traveling internationally.

6. Book in Advance! – I cannot stress this tip enough. I always always always book at least 2 to 3 months in advance when booking any vacation. That goes for flights and accommodations.  Flights are much much cheaper in advance as well as accommodations and some activities at your destination. This also gives me a chance to snoop around for flight deals for a few weeks before actually deciding on the best deal and purchasing my flight.

7. Travel on unpopular days – Flights and hotels/hostels are simply cheaper on weekdays especially midweek, so concentrate your travel around those days in the middle of the week (Tuesday, Wednesday, sometimes Thursday).

8. Never settle on the first deal – when you get to your destination and want to buy souvenirs, goods, local products you should never settle on the first offer. Look at almost everything as a negotiable when buying from street vendors or small shops so that you can get items for much less than sticker price. You would be surprised how low your vendor is often willing to go.

9. Research the economy of your destination – Before planning to go to a place, take a moment to look at the price of accommodations, activities, food and drinks in that location. I can have my heart set on going to Paris and buy a cheap flight only to discover that food and accommodations are extremely expensive and I have no idea how I’m going to manage within my budget once I arrive. It is important to research the economy, cost of lodging, cost of food, transportation, and other details BEFORE booking your flight. This has happened to me and I wasted 200 dollars on a flight because I could not afford to stay in the destination where I had booked the flight. That sucks…hard.

10. Lastly, Read and follow my blog and contact me for more! I am currently looking to help you plan your next trip so definitely shoot me a message!